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Would you ever hire a consultant to help get your kids to sleep?

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Parents Who Hire Sleep Consultants for Toddlers Take the Easy Way Out (VIDEO)

by Julie Ryan Evans

girl going to bedHands down, one of the most frustrating and exhausting (literally) parts of parenting small children is the lack of sleep. From middle-of-the-night feedings to nightmares and kids who just don't want to sleep, there are a number of issues that leave parents red-eyed and in need of copious amounts of caffeine. But should it get this bad?

Nightline recently interviewed parents Danielle and Marcello (who don't want their last name used) who were so desperate for sleep, they took extreme action. Between their two children -- a 2-year-old and a 9-month-old -- they say they were staying up virtually all night long. Danielle said she was lucky if she was getting fours of sleep a night -- and not in a row. 

Both parents work full-time, and when they simply couldn't function anymore, they hired sleep consultants.

The service runs about $2,000, and it includes an overnight visit and follow-up support. That's a lot of dough! And the consultants admit that most families could do what they do themselves -- using things like controlled crying, black-out shades, and sound machines. But if parents aren't able to -- for whatever reason -- then isn't getting someone else to do it worth it?

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I suppose it depends on your budget, just how tired you are ... and the level of guilt you might have for farming out such a chore.

The fact these consultants even exist is worrisome to a degree. I mean, do children today really have more trouble sleeping than they did for hundreds of years before such a service existed? Are we really that bad at instilling good sleep habits at an early age? Or are parents today just more willing to throw up their hands and bring someone else in to do the job when they can't. 

I mean, you can hire people to do everything from potty train your kid to help them with their homework and remove lice from their head. Is it a good thing that parents are able to ask for and get help in areas that challenge them (or they don't want to deal with), or is it somehow cheating our children? Is taking the easy way out always a bad thing, or does it make sense sometimes?

I don't know. I suppose if parents have the cash and want to go this route, then that's their business. You just have to wonder if you start down that road of hiring experts when the parenting gets rough where else it may lead you and what message it sends your children.

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Would you ever hire a consultant to help get your kids to sleep?

by on Apr. 2, 2013 at 2:55 PM
Replies (181-190):
Nyx12
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:22 PM

if i had the money i more then likely would but i never sleep cuz my 5 and 3 year old never sleep and i have tryed everything short of medicating them which i really dont want to do.

crysiann
by Platinum Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:25 PM

Quoting Anonymous:

No and I wouldnt have a nanny either, I gave birth to my child to be his mother, not to hand him to someone else to raise!  Hiring a maid drives me crazy too, good grief, raise your OWN child, clean your OWN house, its really not that hard!


Really, you are going to judge some one for hiring a nanny or a cleaning service!? I am a nanny, and am very good at it. I don't raise their children, I am only there for forty hours a week. A normal work schedule. Not every one gets married and lives off their husband. Some if us women enjoy having a career and a family.
kris0921
by Silver Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:28 PM

No, not for nights! I am mom and the only outsourced care for my kids is daycare 4 hours a day 3 days a week.

CmC1307
by Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:04 PM

no but ive worked with kids for years so i knew how to NOT do things from day one ! No swaddling no even at the hospital, no rocking to sleep, no sleeping while eating etc by 5 weeks i could feed her a 4 oz bottle of breastmilk lay her in her bassinet awake and she would go to sleep and sleep for 6 straight hours. Now at 12 months she goes to sleep the same way and sleeps for 12 hours every night. We do the same thing for naps too and she is still taking 2 two hour naps most days.

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nicndetsmom
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:04 PM
No
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twiggy24
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:15 PM


I say go for it.  My son who is now 12 never ever slept thru the night and I was a single mom who worked full time.  If you need help then get the help.

xxshelbyxxx
by Scarlet begonias on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:40 PM
Ditto


Quoting Anonymous:

No and I wouldnt have a nanny either, I gave birth to my child to be his mother, not to hand him to someone else to raise!  Hiring a maid drives me crazy too, good grief, raise your OWN child, clean your OWN house, its really not that hard!


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xxshelbyxxx
by Scarlet begonias on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:40 PM
Ditto


Quoting Anonymous:

No and I wouldnt have a nanny either, I gave birth to my child to be his mother, not to hand him to someone else to raise!  Hiring a maid drives me crazy too, good grief, raise your OWN child, clean your OWN house, its really not that hard!


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xxshelbyxxx
by Scarlet begonias on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:44 PM
Oh god! Just because the mother isn't hiring a nanny doesn't mean her husband fully supports her! I stay home and would never dream of hiring a nanny or leaving my kids at daycare, but I also am self employed so I earn income too. We're equal breadwinners in this family. 40 hours a week is too much to be away from your kids until they're older and in school


Quoting crysiann:



Quoting Anonymous:

No and I wouldnt have a nanny either, I gave birth to my child to be his mother, not to hand him to someone else to raise!  Hiring a maid drives me crazy too, good grief, raise your OWN child, clean your OWN house, its really not that hard!




Really, you are going to judge some one for hiring a nanny or a cleaning service!? I am a nanny, and am very good at it. I don't raise their children, I am only there for forty hours a week. A normal work schedule. Not every one gets married and lives off their husband. Some if us women enjoy having a career and a family.

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Cdaly12491
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 11:09 PM

If I had the money I wouldn't mind trying it with my daughter. I've had problems with her sleeping since she was born. She's almost 3 now and sometimes she'll be awake half the night. I'll get her on a schedule and then she just up and changes it one night, won't sleep, and she's back and forth. It's so hard with another child, work, and school. 

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