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Would you ever hire a consultant to help get your kids to sleep?

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Parents Who Hire Sleep Consultants for Toddlers Take the Easy Way Out (VIDEO)

by Julie Ryan Evans

girl going to bedHands down, one of the most frustrating and exhausting (literally) parts of parenting small children is the lack of sleep. From middle-of-the-night feedings to nightmares and kids who just don't want to sleep, there are a number of issues that leave parents red-eyed and in need of copious amounts of caffeine. But should it get this bad?

Nightline recently interviewed parents Danielle and Marcello (who don't want their last name used) who were so desperate for sleep, they took extreme action. Between their two children -- a 2-year-old and a 9-month-old -- they say they were staying up virtually all night long. Danielle said she was lucky if she was getting fours of sleep a night -- and not in a row. 

Both parents work full-time, and when they simply couldn't function anymore, they hired sleep consultants.

The service runs about $2,000, and it includes an overnight visit and follow-up support. That's a lot of dough! And the consultants admit that most families could do what they do themselves -- using things like controlled crying, black-out shades, and sound machines. But if parents aren't able to -- for whatever reason -- then isn't getting someone else to do it worth it?

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I suppose it depends on your budget, just how tired you are ... and the level of guilt you might have for farming out such a chore.

The fact these consultants even exist is worrisome to a degree. I mean, do children today really have more trouble sleeping than they did for hundreds of years before such a service existed? Are we really that bad at instilling good sleep habits at an early age? Or are parents today just more willing to throw up their hands and bring someone else in to do the job when they can't. 

I mean, you can hire people to do everything from potty train your kid to help them with their homework and remove lice from their head. Is it a good thing that parents are able to ask for and get help in areas that challenge them (or they don't want to deal with), or is it somehow cheating our children? Is taking the easy way out always a bad thing, or does it make sense sometimes?

I don't know. I suppose if parents have the cash and want to go this route, then that's their business. You just have to wonder if you start down that road of hiring experts when the parenting gets rough where else it may lead you and what message it sends your children.

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Would you ever hire a consultant to help get your kids to sleep?

by on Apr. 2, 2013 at 2:55 PM
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Basherte
by Gold Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 10:31 AM

If I needed the help, I would hire a consultant to help me help my child go to sleep. I wouldn't hire anyone to put my son to bed for me though. That would be no fun.

I enjoy taking my son upstairs to my room to throw him around a little (I'll explain that in a min) and then take him while he's giggling over to his room and put him in his bed. Tickle him a little more, give him a kiss on his forehead, and come back downstairs.

Throw him around a little= He lays on his back. I grasp his ankles and pull him to me. He puts his feet on my shoulders, and I grasp him around his waist then flip him so that he lands on his knees, he rolls back a bit and lands on his back, pulls his legs out from under him and wants me to do that again. 

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JennPearce
by Silver Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 10:37 AM
No thanks! I got blessed with good sleepers so I don't count, but even if I didn't I'd still do it myself. I do all mom jobs! :)
CmC1307
by Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 3:47 PM

 wow ive never heard of a child getting night terrors so young before

Quoting ele2837:

I did things the same way since day one. No swaddling, no swings, no rocking, no paci or bottle at bedtime. I let her learn to fall asleep without aids, but at five months many daughter started having night terrors. Sometimes you do everything right and still end up with a child who isn't a great sleeper.


Quoting CmC1307:

no but ive worked with kids for years so i knew how to NOT do things from day one ! No swaddling no even at the hospital, no rocking to sleep, no sleeping while eating etc by 5 weeks i could feed her a 4 oz bottle of breastmilk lay her in her bassinet awake and she would go to sleep and sleep for 6 straight hours. Now at 12 months she goes to sleep the same way and sleeps for 12 hours every night. We do the same thing for naps too and she is still taking 2 two hour naps most days.


 

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NannytoMom2012
by New Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 5:59 PM
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I am a nanny and there are night nannies for people who have no desire to wake up with their child. That breaks me heart. I know new moms are so tired but hat bonding time at night with my LO is something I wouldn't give up for anything. On the sleep trainer subject I feel that if you need a professional to come in and do your job and they can accomplish what you couldn't then you likely have bigger problems as parents. JMO.
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MamaRae85
by Platinum Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 6:02 PM

This. I'm at the end of my rope with this kid. I would so do it if I had the money.

Quoting OwlNuggets:

If you got the cash and you really are out of ideas and feel you could use some help, why the hell not?



ele2837
by Bronze Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 6:06 PM
Yeah my doctor said its rare that young but not unheard of. I wasn't sure that was what it was until I talked to him. She would just start screaming her little head off in the middle of the night without really waking up. We couldn't get her to stop until we got her to fully wake up and see that we were there. She doesn't have them as bad anymore. She just turned two. She talks in her sleep a lot and still occasionally starts crying out and and we have to wake her up too calm her down.


Quoting CmC1307:

 wow ive never heard of a child getting night terrors so young before


Quoting ele2837:

I did things the same way since day one. No swaddling, no swings, no rocking, no paci or bottle at bedtime. I let her learn to fall asleep without aids, but at five months many daughter started having night terrors. Sometimes you do everything right and still end up with a child who isn't a great sleeper.



Quoting CmC1307:


no but ive worked with kids for years so i knew how to NOT do things from day one ! No swaddling no even at the hospital, no rocking to sleep, no sleeping while eating etc by 5 weeks i could feed her a 4 oz bottle of breastmilk lay her in her bassinet awake and she would go to sleep and sleep for 6 straight hours. Now at 12 months she goes to sleep the same way and sleeps for 12 hours every night. We do the same thing for naps too and she is still taking 2 two hour naps most days.



 


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timntorie
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 8:44 PM
I don't think you should pay someone to parent your children.
You had the child now suck it up and do your duty as a parent.
If you need help I don't see the problem in paying for some good olé
fashion parenting classes. People are so freaking lazy.
celticgodess
by Bronze Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 10:15 PM

hell yes!  The almost 4 yo sleeps great.  Its getting her there that is easy as pie or a LONG, EXAUSTING drawn out process.  And the 7 mo has gotten up 3-4 times a night more often than not since she was born. 

Jalestra
by on Apr. 5, 2013 at 12:39 AM
Or you could pay a babysitter for one night every so often and get some sleep and be parents the rest of the time....bunch of lazy whiny ass people.
Dora-rulz
by on Apr. 6, 2013 at 9:57 AM
No way. If they are not sleeping then you need to take them to dr to find out why. Humans need sleep.
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