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Would you ever hire a consultant to help get your kids to sleep?

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Parents Who Hire Sleep Consultants for Toddlers Take the Easy Way Out (VIDEO)

by Julie Ryan Evans

girl going to bedHands down, one of the most frustrating and exhausting (literally) parts of parenting small children is the lack of sleep. From middle-of-the-night feedings to nightmares and kids who just don't want to sleep, there are a number of issues that leave parents red-eyed and in need of copious amounts of caffeine. But should it get this bad?

Nightline recently interviewed parents Danielle and Marcello (who don't want their last name used) who were so desperate for sleep, they took extreme action. Between their two children -- a 2-year-old and a 9-month-old -- they say they were staying up virtually all night long. Danielle said she was lucky if she was getting fours of sleep a night -- and not in a row. 

Both parents work full-time, and when they simply couldn't function anymore, they hired sleep consultants.

The service runs about $2,000, and it includes an overnight visit and follow-up support. That's a lot of dough! And the consultants admit that most families could do what they do themselves -- using things like controlled crying, black-out shades, and sound machines. But if parents aren't able to -- for whatever reason -- then isn't getting someone else to do it worth it?

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I suppose it depends on your budget, just how tired you are ... and the level of guilt you might have for farming out such a chore.

The fact these consultants even exist is worrisome to a degree. I mean, do children today really have more trouble sleeping than they did for hundreds of years before such a service existed? Are we really that bad at instilling good sleep habits at an early age? Or are parents today just more willing to throw up their hands and bring someone else in to do the job when they can't. 

I mean, you can hire people to do everything from potty train your kid to help them with their homework and remove lice from their head. Is it a good thing that parents are able to ask for and get help in areas that challenge them (or they don't want to deal with), or is it somehow cheating our children? Is taking the easy way out always a bad thing, or does it make sense sometimes?

I don't know. I suppose if parents have the cash and want to go this route, then that's their business. You just have to wonder if you start down that road of hiring experts when the parenting gets rough where else it may lead you and what message it sends your children.

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Would you ever hire a consultant to help get your kids to sleep?

by on Apr. 2, 2013 at 2:55 PM
Replies (31-40):
aimhawk
by Gold Member on Apr. 2, 2013 at 5:45 PM

No. They are my children, its my job to take care of them and thankfully they are both great sleepers.

mommytobe921
by Member on Apr. 2, 2013 at 5:46 PM
No but we dobt have a problem in that area....we might if we had a problem.
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Mommy2b2many
by on Apr. 2, 2013 at 5:56 PM

My twins (9m) have an Early interventionist; and she worked with us on setting up a sleep schedule and  pattern. She didn't stay over night though. But in mycase my twins were meth exposed so they were really hard to sleep train. I would never pay 2000 to have someone teach my kids to sleep though...

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 2, 2013 at 6:33 PM

 No.  That's got be on the STUPIDEST things I've ever heard of period...and to spend money on? Holy crap.  I am absolutely flabbergasted the someone would freaking HIRE somebody to parent for them.  Has this what this society has come to? Parents have gotten so lazy and ridiculous and so frearful for parenting that they hire so-called "experts" to do it for them? GIVE ME A BREAK!!!! Unless the kid has a bona fide sleep disorder, in which case they should be seen by a physician, not a "consultant", then I don't want to freaking hear it.  If I stayed up all night, my mom would have spanked me every time I got up until I learned to stay in my room.  I would have probably had other consequences too.  What happened to discipline? Yep, I spank my kids (if they are old enough) if they get up for no appearent reason and I've ruled out hunger, thirst, illness, bad dreams, ext., and they keep doing it repeatedly.  NEVER would my child get away with that.  

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 2, 2013 at 6:37 PM

That's a rich person thing. If they can afford to hire people to care for their kids they will. Us poor and middle class folk take care of child's issues ourselves.

bugsmama149
by on Apr. 2, 2013 at 6:38 PM

It always kills me when I see a celebrity in a magazine who hasn't worked in years, walking down a sidewalk with her "assistant" and her nanny pushing her child in a stroller. It's like really? Why the hell do you need all that?

Quoting Anonymous:

 No.  That's got be on the STUPIDEST things I've ever heard of period...and to spend money on? Holy crap.  I am absolutely flabbergasted the someone would freaking HIRE somebody to parent for them.  Has this what this society has come to? Parents have gotten so lazy and ridiculous and so frearful for parenting that they hire so-called "experts" to do it for them? GIVE ME A BREAK!!!! Unless the kid has a bona fide sleep disorder, in which case they should be seen by a physician, not a "consultant", then I don't want to freaking hear it.  If I stayed up all night, my mom would have spanked me every time I got up until I learned to stay in my room.  I would have probably had other consequences too.  What happened to discipline? Yep, I spank my kids (if they are old enough) if they get up for no appearent reason and I've ruled out hunger, thirst, illness, bad dreams, ext., and they keep doing it repeatedly.  NEVER would my child get away with that.  


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 2, 2013 at 6:43 PM

LMAO!  Hell no.  My kids knew what bedtime meant.  Hell, my son would usually fall asleep before bedtime.

mama3p
by Silver Member on Apr. 2, 2013 at 6:45 PM

Hell no! Barring any serious medical issues/reasons I will take care of my kids myself thank you very much..silly

singlemama0905
by on Apr. 2, 2013 at 7:01 PM
I personally wouldn't, but some people don't have that natural "parenting instinct" and do need some additional support...or they have a child that nothing os working for. sometimes an outside prospective and advice is helpful.
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Pnukey
by Jenn on Apr. 2, 2013 at 7:15 PM

No, but if some fool wants to pay me to be a consultant, I'll take it! hahahahaha, what a scam!

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