am I over reacting?

[Anonymous]

I am so sick of my fam. Its like it's all about them and what works for them. My cuz wanted to bring her daughter over so she could dye eggs with my dd. It was all about what worked for her. When we finally agreed on a time she showed up the night before, I was still at work to color eggs because that was a better day for her. Now the family is supposed to get together to go out to eat. They chose a place a 1  1/2 hour away. I get off work at 5 30. That means we wont even get there until 7. I'm the only one with a kid in school. Do you think this was rude? To pick this place and a school night? I feel like it's all about them all the time. I'm sick of it. But if I don't go, I will be the trouble maker. 

[LyTe684]

Don't go then. Who cares what they say?

[thecoffeefairy]

Then don't go.

[opal10161973]

I wouldn't go and if they don't understand then they need to get the heads out of their butts. 

[catrig]

Fuck them!  Be a trouble maker!  Do it!

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting LyTe684:

Don't go then. Who cares what they say?

I know thats what I think too but I will get so much shit if I dont show. 

[LyTe684]

You'll only be getting shit because you aren't letting them control you.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting LyTe684:

Don't go then. Who cares what they say?

I know thats what I think too but I will get so much shit if I dont show. 

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting opal10161973:

I wouldn't go and if they don't understand then they need to get the heads out of their butts. 

They are being inconsiderate, don't you think?

[Anonymous]

They only do it to you because you allow it. If she shows up the day before, send her home. If they have a meal that far away on a school night, don't go and tell them why. We had a similar thing happen in my inlaw family. We put our feet down and it stopped. Now it's what works for everyone. If it doesn't stop at least your life will have some peace because you won't be dealing with it.

[opal10161973]

Very inconsiderate.  I would decline and tell them that your child has a bed time and with school, she will not go to bed late. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting opal10161973:

I wouldn't go and if they don't understand then they need to get the heads out of their butts. 

They are being inconsiderate, don't you think?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Thanks. Its so messed up thats how this family is though. You have to go along or your the a$$. 

Quoting LyTe684:

You'll only be getting shit because you aren't letting them control you.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting LyTe684:

Don't go then. Who cares what they say?

I know thats what I think too but I will get so much shit if I dont show.