my son has been dating a waitress he met when he went to this resutaunt a little over 3 months ago, when he got with her she had just been kicked out of her boyfriends apartment by his roommate, the boyfriend didnt care. well she was pregnant when they kicked her out, and when my son met her she had just found out she was pregnant(6 weeks) she was sleeping on her friends couch. now skip to this month she has her own apartment, 2 jobs,and she found out her final due date yesterday (they changed it 5 times) and shes due october 3rd.
well my son came to me yesterday and said "i want to sign the birth certificate when her baby is born" i asked him if the babies dad knew that she was even pregnant and he said "yeah he knows, and moved to the point she cant find him" i then told him "do you really think thats the right thing to do?" he looks down and says "im the one going to her dr appointments and im the one thats going to be feeling that baby move with her,i know its only been a couple months but i feel it'll be the right thing to do" his dad chimed in and said "yeah its only been 3 months and your planning on taking on her fucking bastard child, you must be stupid or something i swear" my son just shook his head and said "just because you had to force yourself to love mom doesnt mean i cant love someone" his dad yells at him this time and says "its only been 3 fucking months and you love her?! bullshit shes just good in bed and you THINK your in love with her" my son stands up and says "im 26 years old damn it im not 10,iv NEVER felt like this with any of my ex girlfriends, and again just because YOU had to force yourself to love mom doesnt mean other people dont just fall in love.if you dont want to accept that this is what i want to do then fine stay the fuck out of my life then"
my son walked out of the house, i followed him and asked him why he was so upset he said "dad thinks that iv had sex with her and thats the only reason i feel like this,im not a hormonal teenager anymore. plus iv actually never had sex with her....she had to get an IUD removed and her cervix wouldnt heal so they stitched it shut and shes afraid if we have sex it'll open it. i went with her when she got it removed and when she had to get her cervix stitched closed, she was crying really hard and wrapped her arms really tight around me. i saw her at her worst moment and i still feel this way about her.isnt that what love is supposed to be? you love them when you see them at their best and then when they are at their worst you either still love them or get freaked out enough to leave...thats what it is to me anyway. mom i feel its right to sign that birth certificate" i just look at him and say "you have a few months to think it over, when she gets bigger and more hormonal and snaps at you because something is out of place you might change your mind,you might not. but right now you think its right and im proud of you for that,but a child is hard work you might want to remember how hard it was for your younger brother when he got his girlfriend pregnant" he looks down again and says "i know it was hard on him, but he still pulled through everything,plus im 27 not 17 mom, i have a stable good paying job and she has 2 stable jobs, but i will think about my desicion in the next few months and if i feel differently when her babies born i wont sign it"
my son left after he got a phone call from her, so i went back inside and my husband was throwing a fit, saying i should try to break them up,tell him that he's an idiot and i just walked up stairs and into my bedroom. the last thing my husband said in his fit of rage was "he's going to end up like his younger brother,stupid and shit out of money" *sigh* if my son thinks this is right then im gonna stick by him my husband can go suck an egg and shut his mouth
(if there are misspellings im sorry but my spell check is not working with me today)