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Moral question...updated I texted him

Anonymous
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Say youre in  relationship and you get pregnant.  The 2 of you split up becuase he begins teating you dfferently and being a real jerk after finding out. Are you obligated to contact him and let him know you lost the baby? Morally I mean...would you feel obligated?

 

Update: After my conversation with yall I felt supported and I really want to say thank you for encouraging me. I texted him so he could call me and at first he didnt text back to confirm so I figured he just didnt care. About an hour went by and he did call,but I chickened out and didnt answer. I did call him back a few minutes later though and it was extremely akward. I told him what happened and he just sat there a munute before saying " So what youre telling me is my baby is dead." I told him he couldve said it better than that,but yes. After that he said he's at work but that he would call me back later. I told him it wasnt necessary. I wasnt trying to be mean,its just in that moment I felt 2 losses. It was like I was losing him all over again too. I still miss him sometimes,but I know he isnt whats best for me right now. Thank you all again.

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:33 PM
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Chantilly1
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:35 PM

so sorry you lost your baby :( 

yes, I would tell the daddy 

hp2011
by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:35 PM
I wouldn't. I would let him wonder and stress since he treated me like shit.
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Chantilly1
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:37 PM


i am sorry but hanging onto ill feelings just makes you a bitter person. leave those feelings with the broken relationship. Besides, this isnt about their relationship it is about the loss of a baby and the father should know 

Quoting hp2011:

I wouldn't. I would let him wonder and stress since he treated me like shit.



GreenAndLean
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:37 PM
I would to just close that door and be done for good
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:37 PM

I am sorry for your loss. I would tell him. I can't imagine thinking I was going to have a child and not knowing he/she died months before. Jerk to me or not, I would tell him about this.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:37 PM

I wouldn't. You never know what awful thing he might say. I am sorry for your loss.

MIA0223
by Emerald Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:38 PM
Of course. It's his child too.
If this is about you, sorry for your loss :;
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caito
by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:38 PM

Yes, I would absolutely feel obligated. Besides, it's not like we wouldn't speak to each other, we have a child together already.

hp2011
by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:39 PM
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What I meant was I wouldn't go out of my way to tell him. If he called her I would tell.
But I get what you're saying. Also what if his negativity caused the loss?


Quoting Chantilly1:


i am sorry but hanging onto ill feelings just makes you a bitter person. leave those feelings with the broken relationship. Besides, this isnt about their relationship it is about the loss of a baby and the father should know 


Quoting hp2011:

I wouldn't. I would let him wonder and stress since he treated me like shit.




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lamommy23
by Bronze Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:39 PM
Just let him know so he doesn't think he has a chold out there somewhere
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