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S/O You NEVER change your mind about sex?!

Anonymous
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In the "is this rape" post people keep saying that it's rape even though she gave in.

She never told him no. She never said she didn't want to. She just said she was tired and tried to push him off. 

When he kept touching her and trying to turn her on, she gave in.

How is he supposed to know he didn't turn her on and she changed her mind?

I don't get it. 

She didn't say no. She didn't ever let him know she didn't want it.

BUT he is supposed to know she didn't change her mind and that she didn't actually want to have sex?

What is he a mind reader?

He is her HUSBAND. I'm pretty sure most husbands aren't going to think their wife is going to feel violated if she doesn't say something!


My exh raped me all the time. However, I said NO. I said STOP. He KNEW I didn't want it. There was NO question.

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 3, 2013 at 4:13 PM
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SpnFulOfSugar
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 4:14 PM
It's not rape
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mommy_me
by Emerald Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 4:14 PM
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I agree

Saying that is rape is ridiculous
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lUcKyLoVe22
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 4:16 PM
I agree. It's disrespectful to call it something it's not.
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vwd_johnson
by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 4:18 PM
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I agree. Its ridiculous she's crying rape now. If you don't want it, let it be known!
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zeenah
by Zarah on Apr. 3, 2013 at 4:18 PM
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Disrespectful to the DH and other rape victims smh

Quoting lUcKyLoVe22:

I agree. It's disrespectful to call it something it's not.


jesistar6910
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 4:19 PM

Agreed.

Fairegirl33
by Platinum Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 4:19 PM

 In the example you are giving, I would say it was not rape.

 I would think if I was the guy that he changed her mind about having sex.  I know that many times when my DH first wants to have sex... I don't want to for what ever reason and he does change my mind by "turning me on".

 This is a tough tough situation.

 I did not read the other post.

lUcKyLoVe22
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 4:19 PM
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I wonder how he'd feel if he knew she's saying he raped her. Ugh


Quoting zeenah:

Disrespectful to the DH and other rape victims smh

Quoting lUcKyLoVe22:

I agree. It's disrespectful to call it something it's not.



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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 4:19 PM

I didn't see the post, but the way it's explained here doesn't sound like rape to me. Rape can occur, even if the person never says no, or even if the person doesn't resist, but those kind of rapes usually happen between two people that don't have a history, an understanding, and a marriage. It's not as if she was paralyzed with fear from her own husband touching her.

lilbit53009
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 4:20 PM

i dunno...but i'm so glad that i will never ever have to question this in my relationship...ever

i wouldn't want to be married to someone i had to think about stuff like this with

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