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My DH is mad because he found an old sex tape, would yours be mad? talked to DH update

Anonymous
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My DH found a sex tape I made with my ex, not knowing what it was (it wasn't labled) he watched it. It is pretty raunchy, me and DH never get that raunchy. I came home and he started yelling and screaming at me like a crazy person. Finally, I realized what had happened. I apoligized that I had not destroyed the tape, I honestly didn't know I still had it and was not keeping it for any other reason then I didn't realize I still had it.

He is mad as hell at me though. I don't get why though, besides seeing it, which I apoligized for and it was an honest mistake. He knew I wasn't a virgin when we got together so why should I have to apoligize for having had sex before him?

I get that it's not the thing every man wants to see but why get so upset over it?

UPDATE

So I talked to DH about it. He said he watched the whole thing, he said is was like a car accident, he just couldn't not watch (which I felt was an invasion of my privacy but whatever). Anyway, I asked him what exactly he was upset about. He said that it was because my reactions (moaning, screaming at points, and all the dirty talk) was nothing like he has every gotten from me. He said he feels like he doesn't fully satisfy me (which TBH is true, I mean not the way my ex did, but I would never tell DH that). I just didn't know what to say, I love him and I told him that but if he watched the whole thing, there is no use trying to tell him that he gets me off the way my ex did. I feel bad but I can't help it.

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:00 PM
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Perfect.Pixie
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:02 PM
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It's called ego. Men have big ones and you crushed his.
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Rust.n.Gears
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:02 PM

Dan wouldn't get pissed at something like that.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:03 PM
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I get that but it's not like I meant for him to see it. I don't think I should have to apoligize for things I did before him.



Quoting Perfect.Pixie:

It's called ego. Men have big ones and you crushed his.



angevil53
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:03 PM
Mine knows i made sex tapes before him. I made some with him too.
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angevil53
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:04 PM
Maybe just apologize to get past it. Not necessarily because you're wrong.


Quoting Anonymous:

I get that but it's not like I meant for him to see it. I don't think I should have to apoligize for things I did before him.




Quoting Perfect.Pixie:

It's called ego. Men have big ones and you crushed his.





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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:04 PM
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I'm just shocked you still have a VCR to play it in.
Nicoleb9
by Emerald Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:04 PM
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He just saw another guy banging his wife. It's upsetting to see and he's probably hurt that you didn't immediately get rid of it back when you guys were getting serious. He'll live. Just destroy the tape.
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Rosamaria101
by Silver Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:05 PM
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Mine would be too. How would you feel If the situation was the other way around?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:06 PM
Ya he would be pissed. My dh doesn't even watch porn.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:06 PM
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Me too


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm just shocked you still have a VCR to play it in.

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