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Did you marry a dumba**??? Or do you just sometimes think you did?

My boss arranged for all of us and a "date" to attend dinner and a show. Now she says she and her DH can't go because they had already promised to babysit their 2 year old grand child. I asked if her DH couldn't watch the grandson so she could go with us. They raised 2 kids themselves, I'm sure her DH could babysit for the grandson for a few hours????  Oh no!!!


Am I crazy to think that a grown man could babysit a 2 year old for a couple of hours? My DH could. What is wrong here? Is my boss's husband incompetent? Or has she convinced him that he couldn't possibly babaysit his own grand child?? Either way I'm calling Bull$hit!!

My DH did everything I did-diapers, feeding, bathing. Why would you marry someone you felt was sooo incompetant??? SMDH

by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:01 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:28 PM

DH can have his moments but he is more than capable of taking care of his children. I will say this much...I married into a whole family of dumbasses. He's the sharpest one.

happinessforyou
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:34 PM

Well you have some bragging rights then! lol


Quoting Anonymous:

DH can have his moments but he is more than capable of taking care of his children. I will say this much...I married into a whole family of dumbasses. He's the sharpest one.



NikLvsNick
by Silver Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:39 PM

There are women who are not comfortable with leaving their DH/SO around a child that young. it's all based on personal preference. My SO had to get used to the fact that I have sole cutody of my children. while I do let him watch them when I have errands to run, he does things A LOT differently then I would. As does my exhusband and his wife when the kids are over there. It does make me uncomfortable at times but I had to learn to roll with it.

Quoting happinessforyou:

You're right I guess. I just got the impression from her end of the discussion that she didn't feel comfortable with him watching the kid by himself. And I know they babysit every so often (they have 3 GKs). He's a smart guy, works hard, raised 2 great sons, has a couple of cool hobbies-I just never would have thought that he couldn't handle a 2 year old! :)


Quoting NikLvsNick:

Some men are uncomfortable being around a child that young. some women don't like going out without their DH/SO. -shrugs- that's what I would take from it.




happinessforyou
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:50 PM

New parents or new to step-parenting=sure!

But this is an older couple who raised kids already! He knows how. AND he sounds like a really responsible, mature, knowlegable guy!!!  I got the impression from her that he couldn't possibly pull this off alone-and I'm saying that unless he is a complete DUMBA$$ (which I really don't think he is), he would be fine!


Quoting NikLvsNick:

There are women who are not comfortable with leaving their DH/SO around a child that young. it's all based on personal preference. My SO had to get used to the fact that I have sole cutody of my children. while I do let him watch them when I have errands to run, he does things A LOT differently then I would. As does my exhusband and his wife when the kids are over there. It does make me uncomfortable at times but I had to learn to roll with it.

Quoting happinessforyou:

You're right I guess. I just got the impression from her end of the discussion that she didn't feel comfortable with him watching the kid by himself. And I know they babysit every so often (they have 3 GKs). He's a smart guy, works hard, raised 2 great sons, has a couple of cool hobbies-I just never would have thought that he couldn't handle a 2 year old! :)


Quoting NikLvsNick:

Some men are uncomfortable being around a child that young. some women don't like going out without their DH/SO. -shrugs- that's what I would take from it.






Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:53 PM
My husbands very intelligent - he's the smartest dumb person I know. I wouldn't let him watch our kids under 4 alone. I ask myself why I'm married to him everyday.

Maybe there is shit you don't know. Hell for all you know the guys got unmanagable diabetes and frequently has seizures or maybe he's a closet pedophile and she suspects. You just don't know.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:57 PM
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Believe it or not, there are some men that were raised and believe that taking care of a child is women's work. I have known a few. It doesn't mean he is a dumb@$$. It just means that is how he was raised and his wife has allowed it to continue to be that way.


PEEK05
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:59 PM

Same here...

Quoting handy0318:

Maybe she just doesn't want to go out without her dh... I don't think I would





Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 5:59 PM

I don't ever think my DH is a dumbass.

As for your situation, maybe SHE WANTS to be there w/her grandbabies & not leave them.  Could have nothing to do w/not trusting her DH w/the kids or him not being able to handle babysitting.

happinessforyou
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:04 PM

Thank you for the laugh!


Quoting Anonymous:

My husbands very intelligent - he's the smartest dumb person I know. I wouldn't let him watch our kids under 4 alone. I ask myself why I'm married to him everyday.

Maybe there is shit you don't know. Hell for all you know the guys got unmanagable diabetes and frequently has seizures or maybe he's a closet pedophile and she suspects. You just don't know.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:10 PM

she made the plans to go out, then cancelled...she didn't want to go.  is she raising these grandkids or do the parents just need a sitter and won't look any further?

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