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I think dh's life just turned into a lifetime movie......

Anonymous
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I don't even know where to start. I really didn't think things like this happened in real life, well I mean I guess I knew they did just not to us or people we would know. So here's my best attempt at telling this story quickly with out it turning into a novel. Dh is really confused and nervous and we would appreciate any advice you might have.

One of dh's employee's (female) babysit's for their boss on occasion. She tells dh today that about a year ago, their boss told her that him and his wife have an open relationship and that he wanted to sleep with her, he promises her a promotion to be the head of her department, all sorts of crazy stuff. He even tried to seduce her one night with dinner, drinks and cigars. She declined and I guess the issue was dropped after that...not really sure of all the details after that point.

So now the position that the woman was "promised" is open and since dh is her direct boss she is asking him about. Dh tells her that he is not sure which direction they are going with the position yet, that it has just become an option and blah blah blah. Well that is when she tells dh the story about their boss. She tells dh that this made her very uncomfortable along with other things. So now dh doesn't know what to do. He should report? Or should he not? There are so many other factors that go in to this decision. And now I am MAD that this women even told dh because he is some how going to end up getting stuck in the middle of all this shit.

Damned if he does, damned if he doesn't.

The boss is pushing dh to fire this woman, if he does then who is to say that she won't tell everyone the story and that dh knew and didn't do anything about it. But if he does decide to report his boss, then everyone in the company is going to say that he just did it to get himself ahead because everyone knows he is fighting his way to the top. He could report his boss, the woman could be embarrassed and deny it and then dh is left looking like an asshole and a liar....

UGH I am so sorry if none of this makes sense..it doesn't make sense to me so trying to type it all out was hard lol if you could follow my poor excuse at story telling and made it this far, THANK YOU!!!

So any advice, opinions, questions? I'll be here all night lol thanks ladies!

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:30 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:32 PM

bump!

hello_kitty25
by Platinum Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:35 PM
In a boss' position , your dh should know to report it! Not fire her. Hello.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:36 PM
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That sucks. If I was him I would deny she ever told me. She obviously is only bringing it up now because of the open position. So that makes me question if it really happened.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:37 PM
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umm it could be hearsay I would ignore it and tell her if she wants to do anything to speak to the higher ups.seems like she just wants the position..why didnt she say this a yr ago?

spooky415
by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:37 PM
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Morally, he should report it.

Well, actually...she should report it.

If someone tried to seduce me and used a job as leverage to do it, I'd call HR so fast their head would spin. He should put her in touch with the right people.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:37 PM


Quoting hello_kitty25:

In a boss' position , your dh should know to report it! Not fire her. Hello.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:38 PM

He's not going to fire her, she hasn't done anything to deserve to get fired. But HIS boss wants him to fire her for his own reasons..

Quoting hello_kitty25:

In a boss' position , your dh should know to report it! Not fire her. Hello.


graybealgirl
by Platinum Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:38 PM



Quoting hello_kitty25:

In a boss' position , your dh should know to report it! Not fire her. Hello.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:38 PM

Exactly, he doesn't know what to think.

Quoting Anonymous:

That sucks. If I was him I would deny she ever told me. She obviously is only bringing it up now because of the open position. So that makes me question if it really happened.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:39 PM

that was my question too!

Quoting Anonymous:

umm it could be hearsay I would ignore it and tell her if she wants to do anything to speak to the higher ups.seems like she just wants the position..why didnt she say this a yr ago?


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