did i approach this wrong? im confused. (kinda long)
This is the conversation:
Me: Did u get my text a few mins ago?
Him: What text? Why are you starting shit?
Me: DS is really sick.
Him: Well I've been calling.
Me: He has a doctors appointment at 345pm, ill let you know what happens.
Him: Can I tall to him?
Me: He's sleeping right now.
Him: Well let me know.
Me: You need to decide what you want. Not talk to him and tell him ur coming then not show or call. Why did u tell him u were coming last week and didn't?
Him: U say I got to hang out there. Im not hangin out there. He safe with me hes my son I would never put him in any danger. U kno that so let me have him here and ill even pick him up.
Me: Well I'm sick of you saying your coming and then just not showing. That doesn't make me trust you. I even told you that I wouldn't be here. I told you my conditions and you can't meet me half way. And to be honest, idk you enough to trust you anymore. After everything you have done. Idk whether he's safe or not.
Him: Fuck it. Fuck you, fuck everyone.
So I call him and he just proceeds to call me names and say I'm holding DS against him. I have my reasons why I don't trust him to take DS on his own. Drugs, new gfs every week, keeping him up until like midnight. Our DS is 2. And I wouldn't care but he does it the whole time he has him and then he's off the schedule, I've worked so hard to get him on.
I asked him if he would come to counseling with me. Not for us, but to learn how to get along for our son. We seriously cannot talk without fighting. It lasts 5 seconds before a fight starts. I don't get it. Well he said he hates counselors and he hates me so he's not sene Then hangs up. I call back and he asks when and where the counseling session is. I tell him tomorrow at 1pm and its here in my town. (We live 1.5 hours away from eachother.) Well why would I make it by his town? I can't trust him to show up. I'm not going to waste my gas for nothing. So he gets mad that its all the way here. And hangs up. I haven't talked to him since.
Did I say something to provoke that reaction? I don't get it.