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so this means he has to go on the birth certificate????

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 my df mom says that bc im still legally married my xdh has to go on the birth certificate even though he isnt the father. she said she even asked a lawyer! i think she is nuts but idk why she would make it up. someone please tell me something!!!!

xdh and i have been separated for 2 years. neither of us have the money right now for a divorce we are both expecting babies him at the end of august and me mid september plus we have our 2 we have together to take care of. neither of us mind we have both moved on we are friends with each other and each others so's. so no problems.

anyways is this really true????




 

by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:07 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:29 PM

Yes, if you are still legally married the law says that he is the father. You have to get a paternity test done and send that out in order to get the real father on the bc. You may not list him until you have proof that your husband isn't the father.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:35 PM
That's stupid. What's the difference?

Quoting audreesmama:

Some states don't allow divorce while pregnant.




Quoting Anonymous:

It doesn't cost much to get a divorce if you file yourself. You have to make sure that you and your ex agree on things first, but if you have been separated that long, then you probably figured out the division of assets already.

audreesmama
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:36 PM
Dunno. Maybe because of emotions? Lol. No clue.


Quoting Anonymous:

That's stupid. What's the difference?



Quoting audreesmama:

Some states don't allow divorce while pregnant.






Quoting Anonymous:

It doesn't cost much to get a divorce if you file yourself. You have to make sure that you and your ex agree on things first, but if you have been separated that long, then you probably figured out the division of assets already.


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ColleenF30
by Lube Girl on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:39 PM

In some States if there are children in the marriage full divorce in court is the only option.

Quoting Anonymous:

In 2 years neither of you could save up enough to divorce? Without a lawyer it's less than $1000.

Yet you can both afford new babies? Priorities.


MrsDavidB25
by Stacey on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:40 PM

 Time to get a divorce finally.

ColleenF30
by Lube Girl on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:40 PM

I know Ohio was one of those last I checked. I believe NC is too (not sure though).

Quoting audreesmama:

Some states don't allow divorce while pregnant.


Quoting Anonymous:

It doesn't cost much to get a divorce if you file yourself. You have to make sure that you and your ex agree on things first, but if you have been separated that long, then you probably figured out the division of assets already.


AnastasiaKorsh
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:40 PM

Your husband will go on the BC unless you contest it with the paperwork.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:42 PM
I guess I could understand if you were just separated, but if you're separated for a couple years, then it makes no sense at all.

Quoting audreesmama:

Dunno. Maybe because of emotions? Lol. No clue.




Quoting Anonymous:

That's stupid. What's the difference?





Quoting audreesmama:

Some states don't allow divorce while pregnant.








Quoting Anonymous:

It doesn't cost much to get a divorce if you file yourself. You have to make sure that you and your ex agree on things first, but if you have been separated that long, then you probably figured out the division of assets already.


-Mommy2Faith-
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:48 PM

 thanks everyone!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 15 on Apr. 4, 2013 at 10:18 PM

Don't know about other states, but in SC any child born (maybe even born after divorce but conceived) while married is assumed to be a product of the marriage. That means that the legal husband is legally considered the baby's father & as such is the ONLY man who would be allowed to be on the birth certificate. It is NOT required that he be listed, however, & the mom has the option to leave that spot blank. Also means that the child MUST be included in divorce proceedings & (the decree) even if both parties acknowledge that the husband is NOT the father. 

I'd either call & ask a lawyer or ask your states dept of vital records. Good luck!

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