His sister (35) and I have been rocky from the start. He didn't introduce me to her until I was almost due for our baby... I see why now. She admitted to me that she chased away all of SOs exes (or at least was a mega cunt to them), but that I was "straight" for now... wtf ever that means.
So, I dealt with her overbearing-ness during the first month of DS1 life, over at my house until ungodly hours in the morning. I walked on eggshells as to not offend her, because I felt like my race is and was an issue. It seems like no matter what I do, how I act, or what I say, she doesn't like me. She's rude. Period.
I don't like confrontation- that's not who I am anymore. I put my days of reckless behavior behind me.
SOs friend and I were discussing this. He is also black. He claims she feels like I need to bow and show respect because she is a proud black woman. I need to be humble because I have a "good black man". I must show respect at all times... but... I'm the ONLY white person in this house all day every day. I am the "minority" here, so why can't I feel the same way?
How about YOU as a visitor, show ME respect because I'm a white woman who's proud of herself
Better yet, I'm a proud WOMAN. Period. Color doesn't even matter. Yes, my boyfriend supports me and didn't abandon his child... but that's EXPECTED. Doesn't always happen, but its what you're SUPPOSED to do. Why are we giving him cookies because he's black and didn't abandon his family? If he were white would you feel the same?
So, honest truth:
Black/AA ladies, do you feel this way about yourself and white women ? Is this REALLY an issue?
ALL WOMEN: How do I say what I feel without them calling me racist?
Sorry for typos.