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I'm in need of serious help.(divorce may be only option) :(

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
If you allow your husband to watch porn. Move on now.

My husband has always had his problems with porn. I mean to the point of watching it multiple times a day. Even jacking off to it in the bathroom at his job. And then refusing to have sex with
Now it's escalated to a whole new level and he is looking up prostitutes in our area and jacking off to them.
I really just have no idea where to go from here. He has hurt me pretty bad this time. Then when I proceeded to wake up and get out of bed after arguing with him because he looking the shit up. He replied with "fine I'll just go fuck one of these bitches"
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 7, 2013 at 2:44 AM
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by Ruby Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 2:57 AM

Quoting MizzDeeDee:

I'm okay with porn, but that's really over the top. Sounds like a sex addiction. Therapy or leave.

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by Silver Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 3:01 AM

This does sound like a sexual addiction. But I am also wondering about his anger or "psychological" (idk if that's the right word) state...him referring to women (even if they are porn stars) as "bitches" is raising a red flag to me...I'm so sorry you have to go through this, but if he won't seek help, it may be time to separate (if you don't want to pursue divorce just yet). Maybe it will knock some sense into him, and maybe not, but you deserve better.

by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 7, 2013 at 3:04 AM

Dude needs help.  Good luck with that.  It will only escalate until he does just what he said.  I feel for you!

by on Apr. 7, 2013 at 3:04 AM
Get yourself into some counseling. You will get stronger and be able to have some support. I am sorry you are going through this. I don't agree with porn either and I do feel it ruins relationships. It has ruined a couple of mine...
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by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 7, 2013 at 3:07 AM
That's crazy. My hubs and I watch it together once in a while But that sounds like an addiction
by on Apr. 7, 2013 at 3:12 AM

Dont let ANY man disrespect you like that. He keeps doing it because you obviously dont do anything about it. Crying, screaming, fighting...none of that will solve it. Walking out will. If he doesnt change, get help, whatever your conditions are, and come after you...then let that fish go! If he can not respect you enough to not act in such a manner than TATA! 

by Anonymous 6 on Apr. 7, 2013 at 3:17 AM

Refusing sex with your spouse, for someone or something else, is unacceptable. Period. Even if porn is allowed. 

Sexual acts with prostitues is way out of bounds. Even if she doesn't touch him. 

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