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i feel like i am failing my son.

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He just turned 6 a few weeks ago. I have been home schooling him this year. We have a terrible school district and i dont want him going to our public school. I though how hard can it be to teach him K. So we started off the year with an online school thing that i decided that i didnt like. So i pulled him from that and started on our own in Jan. He fights he ever step of the way. He doesnt want to practice writing. He doesnt want to practice reading simple words. He doesnt want to do anythi g that schools lke school! Ihe knows names and sounds of 19 of his lletter. I keep heaqring he should know them all by now. I feel like i am failing him but i cant get him to do thw activties with me without a fight. I might just send him to public sxhool in the fall. And he can start at K.
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 7, 2013 at 7:51 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:02 PM
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No many parents don't.

No studies show this is better

You're making an excuse, you know you're failing him, and you have.


Quoting Anonymous:

Many parents are choosing to hold children from school until 6 becuase studys show it is better for them. Many children are not ready to read until 7 or 8. My son can read simple words but doesnt like to. He can also write 3-4 letter words if he wants too. The problem is he doesnt want to do it.

Quoting Anonymous:

You are.

You made several choices to keep your son from a proper education when you clearly don't have the skills.

The boy is six years old and only knows 19 letters of the alphabet? He should be reading Dr. Seuss and other simple books he should be spelling 3-4 letter words and writing them as well, he should be doing adding and subtracting.

Now you're going to throw him in K and he will be 7 years old.. that means he will be 19 when he has a chance of graduating.

You failed him.

Horribly.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:03 PM
He eye sight is fine. He may be dyslexic. I am and i also have family that is.

Quoting TexanMomOf6:

 


Maybe he has vision issues or is dyslexic.


Quoting Anonymous:

We go to kids science meseums all the time and he is advance in science for his age. He uderstand tons. Math he may not know the number but he understand concepts about math.


Quoting TexanMomOf6:


There are so many ways to homeschool. Just because the technique you are using doesn't work with him doesn't mean none of them will. Sitting at a desk and doing the same thing public schools do is not best for some kids.  Go to the library and get some homeschooling books that talk about the why and how. You can teach him the same way you did when he was little.You taught him to walk and talk and get dressed and....so you ARE a teacher.  Talk and play and go visit parks and museums and concerts.




 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:04 PM
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 It's too bad you can't LEARN empathy and what it means to be compassionate.

SMH

Go to jail? Melodramatic much?

Quoting Anonymous:

It was VERY called for. The woman is a moron. She should go to jail for failing to educate her child.

Quoting Anonymous:

 That was uncalled for.

Feel better?

Quoting Anonymous:

You are.

You made several choices to keep your son from a proper education when you clearly don't have the skills.

The boy is six years old and only knows 19 letters of the alphabet? He should be reading Dr. Seuss and other simple books he should be spelling 3-4 letter words, he should be doing adding and subtracting.

Now you're going to throw him in K and he will be 7 years old.. that means he will be 19 when he has a chance of graduating.

You failed him.

Horribly.

 

 


 

wanderingmuse
by on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:07 PM
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My son is 5 and going into kindergarten next yr. he has trouble with his letters. We make a game of it. We pick a letter and try to find it everywhere we go. Today we were finding t's at the grocery store. It's amazing how much he gets into it. If I have him a worksheet he'd zone right out. We also write letters to his friends and signs to put around the house. Anything to get him to practice :-)
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:07 PM

I have a lot of empathy for her son. For her? No, you would imagine she would know better.

Or aren't you reading that her 6 year old is not only illiterate , but she has no ability to control him or make him focus on anything to make him better. "He doesn't like it"

What a JOKE


Yes Jail... she's raising a kid who will have no options in his poor life.

And unlike if she were raising a girl, at least we'd have a chance she would meet a guy who would let her be a SAHM.


Quoting Anonymous:

 It's too bad you can't LEARN empathy and what it means to be compassionate.

SMH

Go to jail? Melodramatic much?

Quoting Anonymous:

It was VERY called for. The woman is a moron. She should go to jail for failing to educate her child.

Quoting Anonymous:

 That was uncalled for.

Feel better?

Quoting Anonymous:

You are.

You made several choices to keep your son from a proper education when you clearly don't have the skills.

The boy is six years old and only knows 19 letters of the alphabet? He should be reading Dr. Seuss and other simple books he should be spelling 3-4 letter words, he should be doing adding and subtracting.

Now you're going to throw him in K and he will be 7 years old.. that means he will be 19 when he has a chance of graduating.

You failed him.

Horribly.


 


 


TheMrs407
by Emerald Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:07 PM
Is there a homeschooling co-op near you?
I teach kindergarten, yes he is behind from the sounds of things. Do you think he's just not mature enough or just not motivated? I also know a few schools I wouldn't send my child to. Don't feel bad about that.

I know what it feels like to feel as though you have failed a child. Every time I have to retain one or even when they don't do as well as you hoped, it hurts. However I think you need to decide if you really did all you could. Ive never felt like I failed a child long term, but I have lessons that bomb and even units I reteach when a good chunk of the kids don't get it.

What materials are you using? Most kindergartners enjoy the computer, but most are more motivated by things they can actually hold and do. In general they also LOVE to be in nature.

Best wishes!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:07 PM
Maybe he messes around because he only sees you as a mom and not a teacher...kwim. I believe he's behind, I would put him in public school too. GL :)


Quoting Anonymous:

I think he will get in lots of trouble in public school for being a class clown. He is a great kids but if kids laugh at something he is doing he will keep doing it. He is the biggest goof off in the in the world. He is always playing jokes. He is also so super smart and creative and inventive. If i could just making learnig letters and reading more funny so he would want to do it.



Quoting MonkeyPeanut79:

I went through the same thing with my son. I still am in some ways. We just keep working through it. Some days are really good and some days are bad but he's learning the material because I test him to make sure.

Only you really know if he would be better off in public school. Some kids are, but some kids thrive with homeschooling. Just find what works for you no matter what that is.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:12 PM
He may be mature enough now but back in the fall he was not ready for school. I dont know of any co-op groups in this ear.

Quoting TheMrs407:

Is there a homeschooling co-op near you?

I teach kindergarten, yes he is behind from the sounds of things. Do you think he's just not mature enough or just not motivated? I also know a few schools I wouldn't send my child to. Don't feel bad about that.



I know what it feels like to feel as though you have failed a child. Every time I have to retain one or even when they don't do as well as you hoped, it hurts. However I think you need to decide if you really did all you could. Ive never felt like I failed a child long term, but I have lessons that bomb and even units I reteach when a good chunk of the kids don't get it.



What materials are you using? Most kindergartners enjoy the computer, but most are more motivated by things they can actually hold and do. In general they also LOVE to be in nature.



Best wishes!
MommynMonster
by Silver Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:14 PM
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Have you looked into unschooling him

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:15 PM
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 Wow. A chauvinist too?

He's 6, okay. It's not like he's spitting atoms down at the nuclear plant.

Cut the woman some slack. She's here bearing her soul and asking for help.

WTH is wrong with you?

Santimommy

 

Quoting Anonymous:

I have a lot of empathy for her son. For her? No, you would imagine she would know better.

Or aren't you reading that her 6 year old is not only illiterate , but she has no ability to control him or make him focus on anything to make him better. "He doesn't like it"

What a JOKE

 

Yes Jail... she's raising a kid who will have no options in his poor life.

And unlike if she were raising a girl, at least we'd have a chance she would meet a guy who would let her be a SAHM.


Quoting Anonymous:

 It's too bad you can't LEARN empathy and what it means to be compassionate.

SMH

Go to jail? Melodramatic much?

Quoting Anonymous:

It was VERY called for. The woman is a moron. She should go to jail for failing to educate her child.

Quoting Anonymous:

 That was uncalled for.

Feel better?

Quoting Anonymous:

You are.

You made several choices to keep your son from a proper education when you clearly don't have the skills.

The boy is six years old and only knows 19 letters of the alphabet? He should be reading Dr. Seuss and other simple books he should be spelling 3-4 letter words, he should be doing adding and subtracting.

Now you're going to throw him in K and he will be 7 years old.. that means he will be 19 when he has a chance of graduating.

You failed him.

Horribly.

 

 


 


 

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