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He just turned 6 a few weeks ago. I have been home schooling him this year. We have a terrible school district and i dont want him going to our public school. I though how hard can it be to teach him K. So we started off the year with an online school thing that i decided that i didnt like. So i pulled him from that and started on our own in Jan. He fights he ever step of the way. He doesnt want to practice writing. He doesnt want to practice reading simple words. He doesnt want to do anythi g that schools lke school! Ihe knows names and sounds of 19 of his lletter. I keep heaqring he should know them all by now. I feel like i am failing him but i cant get him to do thw activties with me without a fight. I might just send him to public sxhool in the fall. And he can start at K.
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 7, 2013 at 7:51 PM
Replies (321-330):
momof4loves4
by Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:52 PM
Wherever you got that thought, I don't know. It's bad for their brain?? Their brain is forming those first 5 years and their brains are at the most sponge-like time! They soak up information and when they want to know about things, they want to know everything. Good thing my kids enjoy learning and if I was wrong with my method, my children wouldn't be straight A students who thrive in so many ways at school and out of school. And the shoe tieing goes in with thinking skills and coordination. Yeah I see crappy velcrow sneakers. But after age 5 that's just taking the easy way out. The babble you speak just does not make any sense. I don't know how old your kids are, or if you have ever sat through a kindergarten orientation, but the things I spoke of are standard things they check and work on further in kindergarten. It's no wonder so many kids can't pronounce words correctly even by age 10. It's reenforcement!! Let the teachers do their part, and as a parent I do my part to teach them as well. Not all kids are dyslexic. That is a hereditary trait you know. SMFH.


Quoting amazzonia:

Is not good for the development of their brain learning to read early, because they memorize letters and sounds instead of interpreting a word, which brings to all kind of problems like dislexia. After the age of 7 and later for others the brain is properly develop so the can start interpreting a word instead of repeating sounds, and doing like this reading becomes an enjoyable thing instead of an obligation. 


And why should they know how to tie their shoes at 5? Did you ever see shoes with straps? Lol 

Quoting momof4loves4:

It's not rushing. If you believe that then you may want to stay far away from private and most public schools. I always do some pre K work and school time structure with my kids instead of sending them to pre school and that's just it, u need to get creative like they do at school with behavior charts and prizes at the end if the week if they were good all week or get so many star stickers, however you do it. Schools do this too. Every class has class clowns and teachers are so used to dealing with that, especially since they aren't mom. Your son could very well just be plain old bored. School has so many added benefits and programs where your son would learn everything he should know on time by either getting extra help bc he's having trouble, or he's too bored and needs extra stimulation to keep him wanting to stay on track. It's a lot harder to get over on a school full of professionals than just mom. Schools teach SO MUCH these days!! I am greatful for my district being a great one because I thought one of my children would never take things seriously and here she is, now in 3rd grade and keeps straight As with a 4.0 GPA. Same grades as my always known brainiac since she was 12 months and speaking in sentences. Before a child enters Kindergarten they should know the alphabet and be able to spell their name, know their address, tie their shoes, all sorts of things. My son is recently turned 5, will go to school for K in the fall and by the time K is over, he will know all sorts of math, money, how to PROPERLY write all his letters (he can write them now, they just aren't school perfect yet), be able to read certain things, know how to spell certain words (spelling), etc. they have hw every night in K here. Good luck but in my opinion, would it hurt to have him do a year at the school to see how it works out? People will work with you if any issues arise. You don't want him to miss out. They teach a LOT more nowadays. They are trained professionals. Good luck.





Quoting Anonymous:

I dont see a need to rush his reading or to rush a 4 year old into knowing letters and sounds.i want my litle kids to spend a lot of time exploding.





Quoting momoftwo0406:

I"m no help my kids knew how to read fluent by the time they were 6. They new all of their sounds and letters by the time they were 4. I think putting him in school would e a good idea. He could need extra help that you just can't offer him because you are not a teacher. Not saying there is anything wrong you but you are not a teacher.





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prettygirl326
by Gold Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:56 PM

why don't you do school and help him too. whatever he isn't learning in school, work on it at home more....you shouldn't keep him from going to school where he can have friends and a social environment. i tell you one thing, if he isn't emotionally on board, you homeschooling him won't mean a damn thing. it may not be what he wants...did you ever check with him and how he would feel?

SaraCate
by Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 7:56 PM

Two things: I imagine some folks are getting the 'benefits of late learning' stuff from the stats about Finland, which starts formal ed. at 7 and has high literacy rates.

Second, there is actually a body of research showing that folks who really 'push' (e.g. baby reading flashcards and the like) can impact brain development in ways that aren't necessarily beneficial long-term.  Essentially, connections that would be used for more lateral, creative thinking are instead devoted to rote memorization (IIRC).  Don't have the study citations at hand, but happy to provide them when I'm able if folks are interested.


Quoting momof4loves4:

Wherever you got that thought, I don't know. It's bad for their brain?? Their brain is forming those first 5 years and their brains are at the most sponge-like time! They soak up information and when they want to know about things, they want to know everything. Good thing my kids enjoy learning and if I was wrong with my method, my children wouldn't be straight A students who thrive in so many ways at school and out of school. And the shoe tieing goes in with thinking skills and coordination. Yeah I see crappy velcrow sneakers. But after age 5 that's just taking the easy way out. The babble you speak just does not make any sense. I don't know how old your kids are, or if you have ever sat through a kindergarten orientation, but the things I spoke of are standard things they check and work on further in kindergarten. It's no wonder so many kids can't pronounce words correctly even by age 10. It's reenforcement!! Let the teachers do their part, and as a parent I do my part to teach them as well. Not all kids are dyslexic. That is a hereditary trait you know. SMFH.


Quoting amazzonia:

Is not good for the development of their brain learning to read early, because they memorize letters and sounds instead of interpreting a word, which brings to all kind of problems like dislexia. After the age of 7 and later for others the brain is properly develop so the can start interpreting a word instead of repeating sounds, and doing like this reading becomes an enjoyable thing instead of an obligation. 


And why should they know how to tie their shoes at 5? Did you ever see shoes with straps? Lol 







bhejlik
by Bronze Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 8:29 PM


No, I'm wondering why if you have such a strong opinion why are you so afraid to stand up to it? You see, you're hiding. Yeah, closed minded assholes like yourself do piss me off. Does that get you off or something?


Quoting Anonymous:

Because it pisses you off?

Quoting bhejlik:

I have a question, why is that when people make super, judgemental, douchebag comments they do so anonymously? Just wondering. 


Quoting Anonymous:

No many parents don't.

No studies show this is better

You're making an excuse, you know you're failing him, and you have.


Quoting Anonymous:

Many parents are choosing to hold children from school until 6 becuase studys show it is better for them. Many children are not ready to read until 7 or 8. My son can read simple words but doesnt like to. He can also write 3-4 letter words if he wants too. The problem is he doesnt want to do it.

Quoting Anonymous:

You are.

You made several choices to keep your son from a proper education when you clearly don't have the skills.

The boy is six years old and only knows 19 letters of the alphabet? He should be reading Dr. Seuss and other simple books he should be spelling 3-4 letter words and writing them as well, he should be doing adding and subtracting.

Now you're going to throw him in K and he will be 7 years old.. that means he will be 19 when he has a chance of graduating.

You failed him.

Horribly.








Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 9, 2013 at 8:31 PM

makes me laugh, even if i were to post under my screen name you wouldn't know who I am so what is the difference? You don't even know that all the anons in this thread tree is one person or several of us fucking with you .

ha ha ha ha 

Quoting bhejlik:


No, I'm wondering why if you have such a strong opinion why are you so afraid to stand up to it? You see, you're hiding. Yeah, closed minded assholes like yourself do piss me off. Does that get you off or something?


Quoting Anonymous:

Because it pisses you off?

Quoting bhejlik:

I have a question, why is that when people make super, judgemental, douchebag comments they do so anonymously? Just wondering. 


Quoting Anonymous:

No many parents don't.

No studies show this is better

You're making an excuse, you know you're failing him, and you have.


Quoting Anonymous:

Many parents are choosing to hold children from school until 6 becuase studys show it is better for them. Many children are not ready to read until 7 or 8. My son can read simple words but doesnt like to. He can also write 3-4 letter words if he wants too. The problem is he doesnt want to do it.

Quoting Anonymous:

You are.

You made several choices to keep your son from a proper education when you clearly don't have the skills.

The boy is six years old and only knows 19 letters of the alphabet? He should be reading Dr. Seuss and other simple books he should be spelling 3-4 letter words and writing them as well, he should be doing adding and subtracting.

Now you're going to throw him in K and he will be 7 years old.. that means he will be 19 when he has a chance of graduating.

You failed him.

Horribly.









bhejlik
by Bronze Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 8:40 PM

You really have this much time to waste fucking with people. WOW...just wow. 


Quoting Anonymous:

makes me laugh, even if i were to post under my screen name you wouldn't know who I am so what is the difference? You don't even know that all the anons in this thread tree is one person or several of us fucking with you .

ha ha ha ha 

Quoting bhejlik:


No, I'm wondering why if you have such a strong opinion why are you so afraid to stand up to it? You see, you're hiding. Yeah, closed minded assholes like yourself do piss me off. Does that get you off or something?


Quoting Anonymous:

Because it pisses you off?

Quoting bhejlik:

I have a question, why is that when people make super, judgemental, douchebag comments they do so anonymously? Just wondering. 


Quoting Anonymous:

No many parents don't.

No studies show this is better

You're making an excuse, you know you're failing him, and you have.


Quoting Anonymous:

Many parents are choosing to hold children from school until 6 becuase studys show it is better for them. Many children are not ready to read until 7 or 8. My son can read simple words but doesnt like to. He can also write 3-4 letter words if he wants too. The problem is he doesnt want to do it.

Quoting Anonymous:

You are.

You made several choices to keep your son from a proper education when you clearly don't have the skills.

The boy is six years old and only knows 19 letters of the alphabet? He should be reading Dr. Seuss and other simple books he should be spelling 3-4 letter words and writing them as well, he should be doing adding and subtracting.

Now you're going to throw him in K and he will be 7 years old.. that means he will be 19 when he has a chance of graduating.

You failed him.

Horribly.











Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 9, 2013 at 8:41 PM

 ha ha ha ha ha

Quoting bhejlik:

You really have this much time to waste fucking with people. WOW...just wow. 


Quoting Anonymous:

makes me laugh, even if i were to post under my screen name you wouldn't know who I am so what is the difference? You don't even know that all the anons in this thread tree is one person or several of us fucking with you .

ha ha ha ha 

Quoting bhejlik:


No, I'm wondering why if you have such a strong opinion why are you so afraid to stand up to it? You see, you're hiding. Yeah, closed minded assholes like yourself do piss me off. Does that get you off or something?


Quoting Anonymous:

Because it pisses you off?

Quoting bhejlik:

I have a question, why is that when people make super, judgemental, douchebag comments they do so anonymously? Just wondering. 


Quoting Anonymous:

No many parents don't.

No studies show this is better

You're making an excuse, you know you're failing him, and you have.


Quoting Anonymous:

Many parents are choosing to hold children from school until 6 becuase studys show it is better for them. Many children are not ready to read until 7 or 8. My son can read simple words but doesnt like to. He can also write 3-4 letter words if he wants too. The problem is he doesnt want to do it.

Quoting Anonymous:

You are.

You made several choices to keep your son from a proper education when you clearly don't have the skills.

The boy is six years old and only knows 19 letters of the alphabet? He should be reading Dr. Seuss and other simple books he should be spelling 3-4 letter words and writing them as well, he should be doing adding and subtracting.

Now you're going to throw him in K and he will be 7 years old.. that means he will be 19 when he has a chance of graduating.

You failed him.

Horribly.












melschlegs
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 8:44 PM

I take it your area doesn't promote school of choice?

tinamorgan
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 10:16 PM
Quoting kikikats:



Most teachers don't hold masters??? This is simply not true. Beyond a bachelors degree, numerous certifications and student teaching, a teacher will sometime start a career with just a B.A. In order to make more than crap pay, they will go on to pursue a Masters. I don't know a single teacher without a masters degree.
Additionally, it's ROLE. A roll is something you eat.
amazzonia
by on Apr. 10, 2013 at 5:11 PM
http://www.waldorfinthehome.org/2008/02/teaching_reading_writing_and_s.html read this
Quoting momof4loves4:

Wherever you got that thought, I don't know. It's bad for their brain?? Their brain is forming those first 5 years and their brains are at the most sponge-like time! They soak up information and when they want to know about things, they want to know everything. Good thing my kids enjoy learning and if I was wrong with my method, my children wouldn't be straight A students who thrive in so many ways at school and out of school. And the shoe tieing goes in with thinking skills and coordination. Yeah I see crappy velcrow sneakers. But after age 5 that's just taking the easy way out. The babble you speak just does not make any sense. I don't know how old your kids are, or if you have ever sat through a kindergarten orientation, but the things I spoke of are standard things they check and work on further in kindergarten. It's no wonder so many kids can't pronounce words correctly even by age 10. It's reenforcement!! Let the teachers do their part, and as a parent I do my part to teach them as well. Not all kids are dyslexic. That is a hereditary trait you know. SMFH.


Quoting amazzonia:

Is not good for the development of their brain learning to read early, because they memorize letters and sounds instead of interpreting a word, which brings to all kind of problems like dislexia. After the age of 7 and later for others the brain is properly develop so the can start interpreting a word instead of repeating sounds, and doing like this reading becomes an enjoyable thing instead of an obligation. 


And why should they know how to tie their shoes at 5? Did you ever see shoes with straps? Lol 

Quoting momof4loves4:

It's not rushing. If you believe that then you may want to stay far away from private and most public schools. I always do some pre K work and school time structure with my kids instead of sending them to pre school and that's just it, u need to get creative like they do at school with behavior charts and prizes at the end if the week if they were good all week or get so many star stickers, however you do it. Schools do this too. Every class has class clowns and teachers are so used to dealing with that, especially since they aren't mom. Your son could very well just be plain old bored. School has so many added benefits and programs where your son would learn everything he should know on time by either getting extra help bc he's having trouble, or he's too bored and needs extra stimulation to keep him wanting to stay on track. It's a lot harder to get over on a school full of professionals than just mom. Schools teach SO MUCH these days!! I am greatful for my district being a great one because I thought one of my children would never take things seriously and here she is, now in 3rd grade and keeps straight As with a 4.0 GPA. Same grades as my always known brainiac since she was 12 months and speaking in sentences. Before a child enters Kindergarten they should know the alphabet and be able to spell their name, know their address, tie their shoes, all sorts of things. My son is recently turned 5, will go to school for K in the fall and by the time K is over, he will know all sorts of math, money, how to PROPERLY write all his letters (he can write them now, they just aren't school perfect yet), be able to read certain things, know how to spell certain words (spelling), etc. they have hw every night in K here. Good luck but in my opinion, would it hurt to have him do a year at the school to see how it works out? People will work with you if any issues arise. You don't want him to miss out. They teach a LOT more nowadays. They are trained professionals. Good luck.





Quoting Anonymous:

I dont see a need to rush his reading or to rush a 4 year old into knowing letters and sounds.i want my litle kids to spend a lot of time exploding.





Quoting momoftwo0406:

I"m no help my kids knew how to read fluent by the time they were 6. They new all of their sounds and letters by the time they were 4. I think putting him in school would e a good idea. He could need extra help that you just can't offer him because you are not a teacher. Not saying there is anything wrong you but you are not a teacher.





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