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i feel like i am failing my son.

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He just turned 6 a few weeks ago. I have been home schooling him this year. We have a terrible school district and i dont want him going to our public school. I though how hard can it be to teach him K. So we started off the year with an online school thing that i decided that i didnt like. So i pulled him from that and started on our own in Jan. He fights he ever step of the way. He doesnt want to practice writing. He doesnt want to practice reading simple words. He doesnt want to do anythi g that schools lke school! Ihe knows names and sounds of 19 of his lletter. I keep heaqring he should know them all by now. I feel like i am failing him but i cant get him to do thw activties with me without a fight. I might just send him to public sxhool in the fall. And he can start at K.
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 7, 2013 at 7:51 PM
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areles
by on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:21 PM
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i don't disagree with your larger point, but just so you know, many parents ARE holding kids out a year. it's so prevalent now that there's a term for it - redshirting - and so popular that nyc is putting limits on it because it's increasing class sizes and competition for admission into middle schools.



Quoting Anonymous:

No many parents don't.

No studies show this is better

You're making an excuse, you know you're failing him, and you have.


Quoting Anonymous:

Many parents are choosing to hold children from school until 6 becuase studys show it is better for them. Many children are not ready to read until 7 or 8. My son can read simple words but doesnt like to. He can also write 3-4 letter words if he wants too. The problem is he doesnt want to do it.



Quoting Anonymous:

You are.

You made several choices to keep your son from a proper education when you clearly don't have the skills.

The boy is six years old and only knows 19 letters of the alphabet? He should be reading Dr. Seuss and other simple books he should be spelling 3-4 letter words and writing them as well, he should be doing adding and subtracting.

Now you're going to throw him in K and he will be 7 years old.. that means he will be 19 when he has a chance of graduating.

You failed him.

Horribly.




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TexanMomOf6
by Platinum Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:22 PM
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The meanness the "1st" anon on this thread is unbelievable. People like that is why people like us decide to homeschool. She certainly shows her hateful ignorance.

Quoting Anonymous:

 Wow. A chauvinist too?

He's 6, okay. It's not like he's spitting atoms down at the nuclear plant.

Cut the woman some slack. She's here bearing her soul and asking for help.

WTH is wrong with you?

Santimommy

 

Quoting Anonymous:

I have a lot of empathy for her son. For her? No, you would imagine she would know better.

Or aren't you reading that her 6 year old is not only illiterate , but she has no ability to control him or make him focus on anything to make him better. "He doesn't like it"

What a JOKE

 

Yes Jail... she's raising a kid who will have no options in his poor life.

And unlike if she were raising a girl, at least we'd have a chance she would meet a guy who would let her be a SAHM.


Quoting Anonymous:

 It's too bad you can't LEARN empathy and what it means to be compassionate.

SMH

Go to jail? Melodramatic much?

Quoting Anonymous:

It was VERY called for. The woman is a moron. She should go to jail for failing to educate her child.

Quoting Anonymous:

 That was uncalled for.

Feel better?

Quoting Anonymous:

You are.

You made several choices to keep your son from a proper education when you clearly don't have the skills.

The boy is six years old and only knows 19 letters of the alphabet? He should be reading Dr. Seuss and other simple books he should be spelling 3-4 letter words, he should be doing adding and subtracting.

Now you're going to throw him in K and he will be 7 years old.. that means he will be 19 when he has a chance of graduating.

You failed him.

Horribly.

 

 


 


 


 

areles
by on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:23 PM
but, here's one to your other point:

http://www.wceruw.org/news/coverStories/pros_cons_holding_out.php


Quoting Anonymous:

No many parents don't.

No studies show this is better

You're making an excuse, you know you're failing him, and you have.


Quoting Anonymous:

Many parents are choosing to hold children from school until 6 becuase studys show it is better for them. Many children are not ready to read until 7 or 8. My son can read simple words but doesnt like to. He can also write 3-4 letter words if he wants too. The problem is he doesnt want to do it.



Quoting Anonymous:

You are.

You made several choices to keep your son from a proper education when you clearly don't have the skills.

The boy is six years old and only knows 19 letters of the alphabet? He should be reading Dr. Seuss and other simple books he should be spelling 3-4 letter words and writing them as well, he should be doing adding and subtracting.

Now you're going to throw him in K and he will be 7 years old.. that means he will be 19 when he has a chance of graduating.

You failed him.

Horribly.




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SouthernMamaof1
by Gold Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:24 PM
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Hi!  I'm a teacher.  I once tried teaching 1st grade and found out how really hard it is.  Now, I'm a math teacher and love it.

I'm glad to someone who realizes when they need help with homeschooling.  Too many times I have gotten kids transfered into my class who were homeschooled and very very behind.  I'm not saying that homeschooling is bad, I'm just saying that it's not for everyone.

Have you thought about hiring a tutor to come to your house to teach the curriculum?  I've heard of several parents who homeschool their children but don't actually do the educating themselves.  They hire tutors.

TexanMomOf6
by Platinum Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:27 PM

 What if he has dyslexia. OP said there are a couple people in her family who have it, including her. It does run in families. 


Quoting Miller0305:

A four year old should know his letters and sounds, that's not rushing anything.  And you said your kid is 6, he should at the very least know all his sounds and letters AND be able to read simple books.

Quoting Anonymous:

I dont see a need to rush his reading or to rush a 4 year old into knowing letters and sounds.i want my litle kids to spend a lot of time exploding.

Quoting momoftwo0406:

I"m no help my kids knew how to read fluent by the time they were 6. They new all of their sounds and letters by the time they were 4. I think putting him in school would e a good idea. He could need extra help that you just can't offer him because you are not a teacher. Not saying there is anything wrong you but you are not a teacher.



 

PinkButterfly66
by Emerald Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:27 PM
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Take a look at time4learning.com  

autodidact
by Snarknado on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:28 PM
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He's six years old, and they are getting a late start. Nothing that can't be remedied, but she needs to put more work in and be firm that he needs to do this. 

She can learn the skills, and barring learning disorders, make up for lost time. 

she hasn't failed him. 

Quoting Anonymous:

No it isn't.


Quoting autodidact:


this is such bullshit. 

Quoting Anonymous:

You are.

You made several choices to keep your son from a proper education when you clearly don't have the skills.

The boy is six years old and only knows 19 letters of the alphabet? He should be reading Dr. Seuss and other simple books he should be spelling 3-4 letter words and writing them as well, he should be doing adding and subtracting.

Now you're going to throw him in K and he will be 7 years old.. that means he will be 19 when he has a chance of graduating.

You failed him.

Horribly.










TheMrs407
by Emerald Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:28 PM
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The first thing you need to do is find your states curriculum. It should be on the state's dese (department of elementary and secondary education) website. Many are going to the Common Core Standards, some are creating their own based on this, some are adding to it, some are keeping what they have.

Then purchase materials for the curriculum geared toward homeschooling. It's out there, I don't know much about it, but a homeschool group could.

The create hands on activities based on the lessons. They probably give you ideas in the manuals, but using play doh, shaving cream, cereal, things on nature, cheap things at the craft store, etc. you can have him practice what he's working on. It's much more fun than paper and pencil. My students take home maybe two papers a day and even less at the beginning of the year. The rest is hands on. Even if you do decide to send him to school, do this. Hell probably love it. My students rarely even know they are learning. Pintrest has a TON of these kinds of ideas.

Quoting Anonymous:He may be mature enough now but back in the fall he was not ready for school. I dont know of any co-op groups in this area. I think he also needs more motivation. I am not sure what motivation to use. He really doesnt care about stickers. We are using a lot of work books that i bought at differnent stores. I just get pages out of them and try to have him do them. I read tons of books to him atleast 5 a day.
He will play on the computer and loved reading eggs for a while but then got bored with it.

Quoting TheMrs407:Is there a homeschooling co-op near you?
I teach kindergarten, yes he is behind from the sounds of things. Do you think he's just not mature enough or just not motivated? I also know a few schools I wouldn't send my child to. Don't feel bad about that.

I know what it feels like to feel as though you have failed a child. Every time I have to retain one or even when they don't do as well as you hoped, it hurts. However I think you need to decide if you really did all you could. Ive never felt like I failed a child long term, but I have lessons that bomb and even units I reteach when a good chunk of the kids don't get it.

What materials are you using? Most kindergartners enjoy the computer, but most are more motivated by things they can actually hold and do. In general they also LOVE to be in nature.

Best wishes!
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momoftwo0406
by Ruby Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:29 PM
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Never said their wasn't my kids also knew how to add and subtract before they went to school. Teaching your child can happen any where. I wasn't saying anything negative at all. I was just telling you that I wasnt much help because my kids were already reading my 6. My kids are well advanced and not like normal kids. Kids are never to young to learn anything if they have people willingg to teach them.

Quoting Anonymous:

I play with my kids. We read tons or stories. We go to the park and. Meseusum. We do craft and art projects. There is a ton to do with your young child. More than just learning to read.

Quoting momoftwo0406:

To each there own. I pushed my kids to always do well in school and to push them . They are now in the first grade doing 4th grade work and one in 3rd grade doing 5th grade work. They explore everything more then most kids because they are able to think inside and outside of the box. I never forced my kids to do anything I just encuraged my kids to succeed. Plus I was a SAHM so I had nothing to do but teach my kids and insure that they were more then ready to start school at 5.

Quoting Anonymous:

I dont see a need to rush his reading or to rush a 4 year old into knowing letters and sounds.i want my litle kids to spend a lot of time exploding.



Quoting momoftwo0406:

I"m no help my kids knew how to read fluent by the time they were 6. They new all of their sounds and letters by the time they were 4. I think putting him in school would e a good idea. He could need extra help that you just can't offer him because you are not a teacher. Not saying there is anything wrong you but you are not a teacher.



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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:29 PM
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We have thought of hiring a tutor to come in once a week to work with him and tell me what he needs to do that week.

Quoting SouthernMamaof1:

Hi!  I'm a teacher.  I once tried teaching 1st grade and found out how really hard it is.  Now, I'm a math teacher and love it.

I'm glad to someone who realizes when they need help with homeschooling.  Too many times I have gotten kids transfered into my class who were homeschooled and very very behind.  I'm not saying that homeschooling is bad, I'm just saying that it's not for everyone.

Have you thought about hiring a tutor to come to your house to teach the curriculum?  I've heard of several parents who homeschool their children but don't actually do the educating themselves.  They hire tutors.

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