Etu: She was maid of honor at my wedding so I have to be there for her. I told her my husband was likely going to sneak off after dinner to go get the baby from his sister's house and take her home and she flipped out at me. She said "um he's an usher, he HAS to be there for the ENTIRE day, that includes getting ready and taking pictures, that means he cannot drop the baby off at 5 then come straight to the wedding, no way, he has to be there from at least 3 to 11" and when I said that we weren't comfortable both being away from the baby that long and he would likely be leaving by 8:30 she freaked at me and hung up (presumably to call our mom)
*The only people that have ever been left alone with my baby are my husband and my mother. Both of whom would be at the wedding so they cannot watch her obviously. I do not feel comfortable with my mil watching her because she is a hoarder. Everyone else I know and trust will be at the wedding. I will not use a sitter service or random babysitter as she is too young to tell me what is going on when I leave
She texted me after she hung up:
Sister: If you and (your husband) need to stay home the day of the wedding please let me know so I can make other arrangements for who is going to be in the wedding
Me: I would suggest finding another person to be your usher then. She is too little to be left alone that long with someone we do not trust so (my husband) will have to leave early to take care of her.
She hasn't responded yet but I am sure she is pissed.
Add: As a young child I was abused by a "trusted sitter." My parents had all her info, references, etc. and she still abused me. My 6 month old is not even old enough to tell me if something were to go wrong. It's just not happening.
ETU 3 : She never responded to my text but instead called my mom and freaked out at her then when mom didn't 100% take her side my sister went to mom's, picked up the wedding dress from her and told her not to worry about going to the dress fitting tomorrow because she didn't want her there. I didn't even know there was a dress fitting but that's besides the point. She is in full on bridezilla mode and even tried to get my dad in the middle of it so I have had both parents calling bitching me out for trying to ruin my sisters wedding. It's ridiculous. I haven't tried to say anything else to her because she just needs to calm the hell down. Seriously I think she cares more about the picture perfect image she presents than about the actual marriage itself.