my confession; i have never encountered a child like this before today.
my goodness that was awkward.
my 7yr old son caught a ride home with our neighbor who works as whats it called? she works with kids who need help at school and lives down the street from us.
anyways....as usual we chatted her, in her car, me, with my head out the door, but she asked to see the baby, so i invited her in.
and this kid who she gives a ride home to every day follows her in.(size?8-9ish. but said he had a younger brother who was 12)
coming up the walk he was admonishing her, saying "you know we cant stay long pam, so i really hope you dont plan on taking long, i have things to do today!"
and i thought to myself, "what a rude child!" so they come in and he stays by the door, while i invited her into dining/kitchen area for a peek at our little guy, so she's checking him out and asking all the normal questions and what not, (weight. how long it took, was it awful? lol)
and the whole time this kid keeps interrupting, insisting they needed to go. right now. and he is getting more and more insist ant, and by then i am sure my eyes were as wide as dinner plates i was taken aback at this boy.
and she just ignores him, completely.
so i took my cue from her, and ignored him as well, but it was very....unsettling, and i was a tad uncomfortable. it took a min for it to click in my head, that there is something different about this child.
he is not intending to be rude. this is his personality, and his routine is off because she got out of the car to come in.
oh my goodness, this is what "those moms" on cafemom are talking about. this is what they have to deal with.
i cannot imagine how frustrating, and draining of energy it must be.
i dont know if im right, but my guess is he is on the autism spectrum and i would guess he has ocd tendencies.
i remember when my 7 yr olds teachers in bethune kindergarten tried to tell me he needed to be medicated, and that she thought he was autistic, because he would get lost in thought or be overly excited about activities, but mostly because of chronic constipation, at that age he would occasionally have accidents and was in pull ups.
we never heard a single nice word about our son from that teacher. she scared the shit out of me, i had always thought ds was a pretty normal kid, and he is, thank god.
thank god for teachers who love their jobs and students here in our town, we no longer live in the bethune district, thank goodness, and i have asked his teachers if they thought there was anything wrong with him, if they thought he needed to be medicated and they looked at me like i was nuts, and said "of course not!"
anyways. im very glad he's not, normal kids are exhausting enough!!
i really hope i dont come across as offensive or judgmental,that is not at all my intention.
that was just the first time i have ever had any interaction with a child like that.
**about my sons constipation because i know someone will say something; he was maulled by 2 great danes when he was 3 and had extensive injuries, he regressed in his potty training and started to withold his poo because it hurt for him to poop, developing encropsresis, which we are working with to this day. he no longer poops his pants but i do have to stay on top off makeing sure he is pooping daily**