Hi, I am 40 years old. I had 2 sons by the time I was 20. (I am also a grandmother!) Please dont judge this part as it is not my issue.
When I became pregnant with my first I gained 65lbs. (I was 100lbs prior) Being so young I had never heard of stretch marks and did not use any creams to prevent. I know they are also caused by hormones, but my body literally ripped apart it seems. I hate my post pregnant body and it has casued me such pain trying to always cover myself. Sadly, I would have a nice body if I had no stretch marks. I was blessed with a terrific shape, round butt, nice hips, curve hourglass type waist. But it doesnt matter. I am told I am pretty and look early 30s and not even close to 40, since people say im "pretty" it almost seems they have expectations..like when they see how flawed my body is they are shocked. ( Personally i do not think i am pretty, but admit i have an "interesting" face which maybe people translate to nice looking. I for sure have unusual features.)
I have deep stretch marks on...
Breasts: they go so high up and are so deep that I can never ever wear a v neck shirt. They go up onto my chest!
Stomach and hips: I dont have the severe full belly ones but I have random patches and singles ones scattered and of course all are deep. Again deep
Thighs: Top on thighs have deep patch of stretch marks. If I wore a bathing suit or shirt shorts you would see what looks like I was scratched by a lion on the top of each thigh. Place you fingers together on top of thighs while sitting and you will get an idea.
Butt: My ENTIRE butt has streach marks all over it. Im not talking faint lines. Like I said all of mine are DEEP
Calves: These are the only ones not deep, but nontheless the are on my calf.
Vagina: I even have stretch marks between my legs. One the very inner thight where it all "meets"
When I run my hands over my body i can feel them. They are that deep. My body feels like a relief map (remember those from school with the bumps and valleys) Running my hand over myself i can actually feel the deep indentions. The only parts of my body that are smooth are my back, neck, arms face, inner thigh.
I dont know how to deal. Its been 20 years of covering my body. Wearing shorts to the beach that have to go up to my belly button to try to hide belly, butt, thigh marks. I have to wear tankini type tops as well to cover breasts, chest.
I cant take it anymore. Try living in south florida and covering up all the time! I know people say to wear it at a badge of motherhood etc but im sorry, im embarrassed. After 20 years they are as deep and severe as ever. Only chage is they are no longer bright red (but will turn red, silver and white in sun exposure.
I am vacationing in the Caribbean soon and instead of being happy all I can think about is being embarrassed as the group I am traveling with all have perfect i mean perfect bodies.
Does any other mom relate? OR were you all belssed to have been spared this? Sometimes i get so ashamed by it.