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Do you think it's acceptable to shield children from dissapointment?

Posted by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:05 PM
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Question: Should we shield our children from disapointment?

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   Do you think it's acceptable to let children feel disapointment, or should we shield them from it? (Should you invite everyone to a birthday party so no one feels left out, or only a few friends because that's what you can afford? Should you let every kid on the ball team that trys out? etc.)

by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:05 PM
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atyou
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:07 PM
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That's a hard one. I don't think it's black and white. As their mom, it's natural to want to protect them....but on the other hand....disappointment is a part of life.


So, for me, it's situational.
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JasonsMom2007
by Silver Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:08 PM
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I think it's important to teach children how to handle disappointment not to shield them from it.  And I think it's important for them to see our disappointment and how we handle it as well.

AliKatAK47
by Meanie Pants on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:09 PM
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I don't shield them from disappointment. IMO that is how you get bratty, entitled kids and I don't want that
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mommy_me
by ~The Three B's~ on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:09 PM
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No we shouldn't.
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Not_A_Native
by Ruby Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:10 PM
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No, shielding them from disappointment is shielding them from life.  It's a part of life, just like anything else.  Otherwise, they grow up and DO face disappointment, and have no clue how to handle it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:11 PM
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Yes and no. DS is only 4 so right now I would say I would shield him and try to preserve his innocence. (from obvious hurt--not getting the toy he wanted or not being able to stay up late, that's a different story) That being said, I do not believe in the everyone wins/everyone gets a trophy mentality.

Roo1234
by Gold Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:11 PM
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I believe in helping a child to frame disappointment appropriately, but to not let them experience it doesn't help them learn and grow

Jaxsonsmama2009
by Gold Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:12 PM
I think to some extent it's okay. If I'm able to I will to a reasonable point.
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wonderwomanT08
by Ruby Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:14 PM
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As parents we need to teach our children how life really is and how to deal with it!
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Jade_Lufercus
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:15 PM
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Life is full of disappointment and regret. Children need to learn how to deal with that.

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