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Do you think it's acceptable to shield children from dissapointment?

Posted by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:05 PM
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Question: Should we shield our children from disapointment?

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   Do you think it's acceptable to let children feel disapointment, or should we shield them from it? (Should you invite everyone to a birthday party so no one feels left out, or only a few friends because that's what you can afford? Should you let every kid on the ball team that trys out? etc.)

by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:05 PM
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atyou
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:07 PM
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That's a hard one. I don't think it's black and white. As their mom, it's natural to want to protect them....but on the other hand....disappointment is a part of life.


So, for me, it's situational.
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JasonsMom2007
by Silver Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:08 PM
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I think it's important to teach children how to handle disappointment not to shield them from it.  And I think it's important for them to see our disappointment and how we handle it as well.

AliKatAK47
by Meanie Pants on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:09 PM
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I don't shield them from disappointment. IMO that is how you get bratty, entitled kids and I don't want that
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mommy_me
by ~The Three B's~ on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:09 PM
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No we shouldn't.
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Not_A_Native
by Ruby Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:10 PM
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No, shielding them from disappointment is shielding them from life.  It's a part of life, just like anything else.  Otherwise, they grow up and DO face disappointment, and have no clue how to handle it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:11 PM
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Yes and no. DS is only 4 so right now I would say I would shield him and try to preserve his innocence. (from obvious hurt--not getting the toy he wanted or not being able to stay up late, that's a different story) That being said, I do not believe in the everyone wins/everyone gets a trophy mentality.

Roo1234
by Platinum Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:11 PM
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I believe in helping a child to frame disappointment appropriately, but to not let them experience it doesn't help them learn and grow

Jaxsonsmama2009
by Gold Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:12 PM
I think to some extent it's okay. If I'm able to I will to a reasonable point.
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wonderwomanT08
by Ruby Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:14 PM
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As parents we need to teach our children how life really is and how to deal with it!
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Jade_Lufercus
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 3:15 PM
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Life is full of disappointment and regret. Children need to learn how to deal with that.

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