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divorce vs. Making it work

Anonymous
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my husband is 31 but acts 16.he has a full time job,yet our bills are ALWAYS late.when i ask about it he says its not my money so its not my business.also,im not allowed to have money.When asked to do anything for our child he always says he doesnt feel like it (that includes feeding and changing).He emotional and verbally abuses me.Hes very rude and controling.he taught our child to smack my butt and pull up my shirt.he gets extremly angry if our kid doesnt fall right to sleep.(LO is a toddler btw). He was fired from his last job for sexual harrassment but denied it.ive found pills in his shaving kit.also multiple porn on his droid. Hes screamed *i fucking hate your guts!!!* in my face.also says if i leave he will take LO and im terrified of that,but cant prove anything :(
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:43 PM
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Mrs.Torres2566
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:44 PM
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I would leave. He sounds like an abusive asshole. 

Roxygurl
by Sapphire Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:45 PM
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He can't take your kid. You need to get a plan. Do you work? If not get a job and put as much money as you can aside. When you have enough to move out do that.

Contact a lawyer, if you don't have the money look for the free legal aid in your community
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:49 PM
How can i prove emotional,verbal,and financial abuse?? none of that leaves physical marks... The man literally gets mad when i need tampons...the only thing i ask him for btw


Quoting Roxygurl:

He can't take your kid. You need to get a plan. Do you work? If not get a job and put as much money as you can aside. When you have enough to move out do that.



Contact a lawyer, if you don't have the money look for the free legal aid in your community

vegaswife2011
by LMAO on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:51 PM

And you haven't left yet why?

LilliesValley
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:51 PM
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Umm this shouldn't even be a question. Take your child and run to the nearest women's shelter. They have resources to help you.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:53 PM


you prove it by getting a lawyer and with your words. 

good luck and yes i think you should leave him.

Quoting Anonymous:

How can i prove emotional,verbal,and financial abuse?? none of that leaves physical marks... The man literally gets mad when i need tampons...the only thing i ask him for btw


Quoting Roxygurl:

He can't take your kid. You need to get a plan. Do you work? If not get a job and put as much money as you can aside. When you have enough to move out do that.



Contact a lawyer, if you don't have the money look for the free legal aid in your community



Roxygurl
by Sapphire Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:54 PM
Talk to a lawyer. They can help you much more than anyone on here could.

Quoting Anonymous:

How can i prove emotional,verbal,and financial abuse?? none of that leaves physical marks... The man literally gets mad when i need tampons...the only thing i ask him for btw




Quoting Roxygurl:

He can't take your kid. You need to get a plan. Do you work? If not get a job and put as much money as you can aside. When you have enough to move out do that.





Contact a lawyer, if you don't have the money look for the free legal aid in your community

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mamabear55
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:54 PM

I'm a believer in "mend it, don't end it"

except in cases of abuse. Especially to or in front of children

thenameshailie
by Emerald Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:55 PM
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I would divorce him. I think the national number for information is 211, a friend called them and explained her situation and they found her a free lawyer and paid for her filing. If you are able to, record the things he says to you. If you cant, keep a journal of every negative things he does. Those can be extremely helpful when dealing with divorces and kids.

balagan_imma
by Platinum Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:55 PM
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Document everything this "person" and I use the term loosely, does and says. Tape him if you can.

He is abusive and controling and got fired for sexual harrassment. He also teaches your child inappropriate things. The firing was documented by the company right? It would be unlikely that he would get to keep your child. He's using that as a scare tactic because he knows that you are unhappy and he is treating you worse than a dog.

Get out now before you start believing that you deserve this sh*t that he's feeding you.

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