Are adoptive parents morally obligated to give extra visitation to biomoms?
My sister and her husband adopted two wonderful children three years ago. The bio mom was a real piece of work. The kids where in and out of foster care, abused, neglected, and she was a raging alcoholic. Her rights weren't even officially stripped by the state, she just one day said "Come take them I don't want them anymore" and waived her right to court and stuff.
Because of what they went through, the kids have behavioral issues as well because they where 8 and 4 when adopted. Among other things, the one kids baby daddy was a child molester and the other baby dad was a rapist (convicted and now in jail! Not good people here!) My sister and husband opted for an open adoption with the biomom and the agreement allowed the bio mom to have one supervised visit a year and one phone call a month because the biomom was entering and compleated rehab.
Fast forward, the bio mom is treating the adoption like joint custody. She calls more than once a week, she just came out for a week and stayed at their house, then she told the kids that they where going to go spend a week in the summer with her! My sister and brother have had enough! They have allowed her to be in the kids life way more than what was originally agreed upon, now the kids are so upset and angry at them because they absolutely won't allow the kids to go spend a week with her unsupervised.
They have had enough! They have two additional kids already with an open adoption and the relationship and boundaries are wonderful, and over the last 10 years, a lot of trust and stuff has been built up. They are so fed up with the bio mom they are thinking about enforcing the ONE phone conversation and ONE supervised visit a year.
Do you think they are morally obligated to offer more?