I'm gonna f•••ing blow it !!!! Any advice welcome bashers beware!!!!! UPDATE. DH RETURNED MY CALL
Dh is a horrible discipliner and always backed out so as I was drying off my hands to proceed with said punishment dd screams bloody murder and dh runs out of his room into the living room where we were asking WTF was going on I the. Proceed in telling him dd threw a tantrum and called me stupid well dd goes I to a crying fit playing her dad like she always does doing the damn puss in boots eyes and what not and simply says fine no punishment and tells me to get over it she's little.
I'm just like WTF ????? She's little? She's in school already she's not little. I was so upset but refuses to argue in front of dd so I went to my room and cried yes cried in frustration bc he keeps letting her get away with shit.
So fast forward to today she was running a few minutes behind schedule and we're rushing to bus stop where bus is there waiting and she REFUSES to get on. I told her over and over again to get on the bus driver even tried coaxing her as well as other moms and she just turned around and walked home. Needless to say I was livid. As soon as we get home I asked her why she didnt get on the bus well this was her answer I don't have to if I don't want to. Well I was livid I ran into my bathroom and took several deep breaths (50) before walking out turning her over my knee and spanked her twice. Immediately she freaked out and threatened to tell her father. I said go ahead and gt ready bc you WILL go to school today.
So I go to drop her off we are walking to her classroom and as soon as she sees the office attendant starts acting like she's gonna throw up and begins crying. Well needless to say I was told to take her home. We got home and I told her fine lemme give you medicine for stomach ache tells me she feels better i lost it and snapped I told her she is to march her rude conniving little behind to her room and stay there. There will be no tv leaving the room except for lunch and dinner and bathroom breaks, no toys and no playing outside for the rest of the day.
I sent dh a text message telling him what his absence of action has now done. He hasn't called or texted back and right now I don't care if he does. But LORD help me if he gets home and removes he punishment it's not gonna b pretty. What can I do to get it into his head that he's fuckin her up not letting her deal with the consequences of her actions ?????how do I show her that she has to stop this rude behavior??? I need all the advice tips you mammas got cuz I'm about to lose it.
Dh answered my TM and called me asking what was going on. I calmly told him what dd in consequence of his spoiling. And he got mad and yelled at me telling me he was not spoiling her and that he didnt have time to argue about it. So I just told him why'd he ca in he first place and we both hung up. 15 min. later he called and asked me to calmly explain what had happened. I did not forgetting a single detail. He asked if she was in her room where I proceeded in replying yes.
Dd saw me walk into her room and acted all offended and mad but dh asked to speak wih her. She literally took my cell and hung up on him. Dh called back pissed asking why'd I hang up on him and was VERY surprised when I told him dd was the one who deliberately hung up on him. She would not take the call until I warned her if longer time out. So she takes the phone and LIES to him about some stomach ache. I thought omg he's gonna belie her but he asked to speak to me again
So I told him the whole stomachache was an act and that she's to stay in her room the remainder of the day or until he gets home ( which is pretty much the same. ) he agreed but asked me to at least let her take a ten minute walk around the living room every 1-2 hrs. I told him I'd consider it but didnt promise anything bc if her behavior remained the same she was gonna stay in there until she apologized.And guess what??? HE FINALLY AGREED WITH ME!!! And he told me the three of us would have a serious talk and he wanted to speak with her seriously. Wish me luck that he has finally seen the light.
Oh and dd is still pissed off and in her room. She just had a break less than 30 min. Ago and wnted another one well when I said no calmly she flipped out threw a tantrum and refuses to go back in so I calmly picked her up and placed her in her room. So she's not speaking to me oh well. It's ok I'll live.
And thank you all for you're wonderful awesome advice