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no kids at a work celebration dinner??

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

My husband is winning an award for the excellent job he's been doing at his company.

They're throwing a celebratory dinner for him, where he'll be presented with an award. Every had to RSVP to it, and he RSVP'd 7, with names and ages, assuming that me, his parents and our 3 kids could come. They just got back to him and let him know that these functions are adults only.

Does this seem outrageous to anyone else? Why shouldn't my kids be able to see their dad win an award, and see the value of his hard work? Furthermore, my parents live across the country, and if his parents go too then I have no one to watch the kids! Why shouldn't I get to go?

WWYD?

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 10, 2013 at 7:58 PM
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AnnLanders
by on Apr. 12, 2013 at 7:35 AM

I work for a VERY family friendly company (one of those Top 10 Places for Working Mothers companies) and no one would ever dream of bringing their kids to a reception.  We have events for families and events for adults.  Receptions are always for adults only. 

winterglow
by on Apr. 12, 2013 at 8:23 AM

 I think she'd do better to explain to her ILs that there was a misunderstanding and tell them that they can't go and then try to make it up to them in some other way.

If hubby goes to the event with his mommy and daddy he'll be committing professional suicide. This is also likely to start a wave of rumours speculating about the state of his marriage and the likelihood of divorce.


Quoting Anonymous:

I agree with most of the other posters. This is a work related event and usually only the spouse attends.

In this case, however, since you already invited his parents you have No choice but to allow his parents to go in your place instead. Unfortunatly, this means you'll need to stay home with the kids.


 

nova.mommy
by Silver Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 8:38 AM

Usually work functions are just worker and spouse.

Even if it is a "family freindly" company, the place that the dinner is at may not be.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 12, 2013 at 8:41 AM

not at all...it's a work event. dh has atleast one event a month and they are always adult only and sometimes spouses aren't even invited. they do have a breakfast with santa for the kids every year and a trip to hershey park in the summer for kids but all dinners and other events (casino night, bbb dinners, etc..are adults only)

Ilaynasmommy
by Silver Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 8:45 AM
What is the award? If it was a professional dinner I wouldn't have put the kids or parents. His parents ashould watch the kids. Unless the job specifically says family then no.
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Sept-babies2
by Gold Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 8:46 AM
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We just had something like this. We got a sitter and if that failed i would of stayed home. Just because you have kids does not mean they are welcome everywhere you go. Maybe you should just stay home if it upsets you that bad..although i don't understand why you would think the kids could go in the first place.
Other adults probably drinking and having fun don't want a little kid screaming and running around making their good time suck. Sometimes adult events are just that, adult only events.
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raschwittay
by Silver Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 8:52 AM

Find a sitter. It seems like an inappropriate place for children anyway. Adults drinking, and celebrating. You wouldnt bring them to a new years eve party would you?

happinessforyou
by Gold Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 8:58 AM

You are funny!big smile mini


Quoting Anonymous:

Right?  I would be so embarrassed if I brought my 3 kids under the age of 6 and they started whining during the ceremony.

"Suzie wiped her booger on me!!!"

"Timmy looked at me funny!!!"

"MOMMY I THINK THE BABY POOOOOOPED IT'S STINKY AND GROSSSSSS!!!"

"This food is GROSS!!!  What is this?!?  I'll DIE if I have to eat it!!!  Why can't I have a hamburger?!?"

And the presenter stops talking while the whole room stares at them.  Screech music.   

*Disclaimer* My children do not behave like this and I have two children, 6 years apart.  No, they are not perfect angels, but I know better than to bring them to an adults-only corporate award ceremony in a fancy restaurant where they will most likely be bored to tears, as any child would.  Even the most well-behaved child would act up in a situation like that after a while.   

Quoting happinessforyou:

I don't think any of us would have had a great time at a fancy place, probably late at night, with tired kids. :(

I'm envisioning: spilled drinks, dropped food, poopy baby, crying kids, or kids running around the table.... NOT the image I'd want my boss to have of my family! lol




eztwins
by Silver Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 9:02 AM
Why would children even want to be there. Yes what a good time...sitting with a group of grown ups they don't know, listening to droning speeches about boring work stuff, dressed up, being silent, eating fancy food, not having mom or dads attention bc you guys are having grown up conversations, yippee I bet they are stoked! Or they could be home with grandma and grandpa being spoiled and having fun. I can totally see why they should go to the work event.
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momto3B
by Gold Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 9:03 AM

The fact that after 6 years of having kids that you have "a babysitter you can trust" and your "kids go everywhere with you", is the problem. Children can not and should not be "taken everywhere"  and there are people who can be trusted with your kids, you just clearly have no interest in finding them. 

I think this is more about your inability to be without your kids then anything else. 


Quoting Anonymous:

It's an important award so parents are explicitly invited. I assumed that if parents were invited children would be too...

It's at a fancy restaurant. My kids are 6, 4 and 8 months. I don't have a babysitter I trust and don't feel comfortable leaving them with a stranger. And for whoever asked, yes, my kids go everywhere with me. 



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