I have a cousin who never comes to any birthday parties or events I invite him to, I went to his son's birthday party last year but when I invited him to my son's birthday he didn't RSVP or show up. (He "was in a parade" so he didn't come, neither did my Aunt, Uncle or my other cousin with her kids) As a matter of fact I haven't seen my cousin face to face in over a year and a half because we just have different lifestyles. Well the problem is I was invited to his wedding tomorrow which seems to be all about the money. They are having it on a Friday, they had a Jack and Jill greenback shower so no gift registry to choose from, it's a cash bar, choice of chicken or fish...you get the idea. Well I am strapped for cash too. Times are tough right now and we are trying to take care of 4 kids on one income. It is a no kids reception so my husband is already staying home with our 2 year old so one of us can go to the wedding at all.
I just want to know, is it inappropriate to only give a card because I cannot afford a monetary gift or does anyone have any suggestions for a nice gift I can get today for 20 dollars or under? Anyone see anything on Pinterest?