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ask for the money or let it go..... *** updated ***

Anonymous
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Today at daycare, another child got mad an pushed my dd4 off the play slide thing. She ended up breaking her ARM in 2 places and is in a cast half between her elbow and shoulder.

The entire thing was caused because my dd went to hug this boy good bye. It was witnessed by 3 teachers, the boy's mom and caught on the daycares video.

My dd is going to be fine , possibly needing surgery but not sure yet. My question is can I ask the boy's mom or the daycare for help with the co-pays? The ER is $250 , the specialist that she will see next week is $50, any regular appointments will be $25. Etc etc etc. Plus since it was an open fracture on a playground she's on some serious antibotics. Would it be tacky/rude to ask? I wouldn't even ask if it had been an accident but even the little boy said he did it because he didn't like Katie......

What would you do? ***update*** sorry its taken me so long to update, I worked yesterday (dd stayed home with daddy and Nana. Then after trip to the ER when her fever hit 103 last night. It seems she now has the beginning of a secondary infection in the break above her elbow. I stopped by the daycare yesterday to get dd's stuff that was left there (she was having a break down because her blankie was at school)Between the daycare and myself we decided to let the insurances deal with it. she had already contacted her insurance with our information. She is also going to reduce my daycare tuition by all my co-pays until everything is worked out with the insurances. The little boy wasn't at the daycare. He is a first grader and 7 years old. I FEEL at 7 that he should of been able to use his "words" to ask my dd to not hug him. I asked the director if this a problem with dd and this boy and she said that it has never been a problem with HER, however he is on a discipline path in both his school and the daycare. She also said that he use to be a super sweet little boy and in the last few months his behavior has been terrible and uncontrollable. Makes me wonder what is going on at home. Now the people who said my daughter sexually harnessed this boy , shame on you. she is 4 and hug are acceptable good bye forms in this daycare. they always hug your friends good bye and we will all see you tomorrow. She was just doing what is the norm. SHE also knows how to use her "words" and says no thank you when she doesn't want a hug. She knows about personal space. Shame on you for having to sexually charge everything. It was a simple hug that that had terrible repercussions.
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 12, 2013 at 1:12 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 12, 2013 at 1:14 AM
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MilkLover0203
by Platinum Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 1:14 AM
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Holy crap! Are you kidding me?! I would be livid. The child even admitted to being a jerk! Ugh, I would ask the mother. I realize she didn't cause your daughter harm but her son did. My children get punished for that type of behavior. Ask her. It's the least she can do.
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thetrollcat
by Meow on Apr. 12, 2013 at 1:15 AM
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Id be pressing charges.

wumbo
by on Apr. 12, 2013 at 1:16 AM
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Lol


Quoting thetrollcat:

Id be pressing charges.


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wkukid
by Ocean Wave on Apr. 12, 2013 at 1:16 AM
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Go after the daycare first. It happened on their property.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 12, 2013 at 1:17 AM
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I personally agree, if it was my child I would of voluntary offered money .... Dd is asleep and I'm 3 glasses if wine in, probably the only reason I'm so calm. I was so mad I wasn't speaking stright earlier

Quoting MilkLover0203:

Holy crap! Are you kidding me?! I would be livid. The child even admitted to being a jerk! Ugh, I would ask the mother. I realize she didn't cause your daughter harm but her son did. My children get punished for that type of behavior. Ask her. It's the least she can do.
starlight91
by on Apr. 12, 2013 at 1:17 AM
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pressing charging is a bit to far, I would talk to the parents and ask for half.. This way youre not out all of it, and these parents dont get their butt hurt ...

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 12, 2013 at 1:19 AM
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I hadn't thought of that really ... The video shows all 3 teachers racing towards her but the one that reached her first was just a little late. I'm honestly glad that it was caught on the cameras.

Quoting wkukid:

Go after the daycare first. It happened on their property.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 12, 2013 at 1:21 AM
I could handle half .... I'm just worried if she does end up with surgery, ill have all these co pays and loss hours from work so smaller pay checks .... Just freaking out alittle.

Quoting starlight91:

pressing charging is a bit to far, I would talk to the parents and ask for half.. This way youre not out all of it, and these parents dont get their butt hurt ...

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 12, 2013 at 1:22 AM
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That's a really tough call.  The kid is the one ultimately responsible, but obviously he has no money.  The daycare might have insurance of some sort but do you want to risk alienating the daycare, especially if you like them? Hope your dd gets well soon. 

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