Before I start, I want to say that this is to working moms who pawn their kids off on others, who have latch key kids or who feel that SAHMs have an obligation to pick up your slack and to moms who, dispute knowing their kid's school needs volunteers, refuse to do anything.This is me venting because I have several working moms like this in my life, one of whom is my SIL (DH's sister). For those working moms who still manage to parent their children and not rely on others, I tip my hat to you.
Stop acting like just because you work, it's my obligation to take care of your children. It's not, yes I am a SAHM but that's because me and DH decided that was best for our family, I don't do it so that I can pick up your slack, I do it to benefit my family but if I also have to raise your children, that takes time from my family.
If you leave your kids home alone after school, don't tell them to come to my house if the need anything, I am not a babysitter. Don't send your kids over to my house for dinner because you can't get home in time to make it for them.
If I, as the room mom in your child's class, call and ask if you can help with something or send something in, understand that I have already done 10 times more then you have done for the classroom. Yes, you work, I get that, but that doesn't benefit me so why do you expect me and other SAHMs to do everything for the classroom that your child is in. (A little background, my kids who are in school are in kindergarten and 3and grade, the kindergartner has 20 kids in her classroom and the 3ird grader has 21 and only one teacher in each class, no assistant so just to get through anything, the teacher needs parent volunteers and for parents to send in things). I get that you probably can't volunteer during the school day but you should be the FIRST one in line to help out for the school carnival that is on a Saturday. Your kid benefits from all the other parents helping out in the classroom, actually because you "don't have time" to read to your kid, your kid needs the classroom volunteers more then the other kids.
Above all, stop putting me down for being a SAHM while your are FAILING at the most important job you will ever have, being a mother. I also understand that not everyone has the luxury of being a SAHM but that doesn't give you the right to push your responsibilities onto me. If you are worried about leaving your kids home alone but feel they are too old for a babysitter and you have a neighbor who is a SAHM, ASK her if she would mind keeping an ear out for your kids, offer to pay her, chances are, just because you asked, she won't ask for anything but give her a gift card or something now and then to show your appreciating. Say thank you to your kids room moms instead of avoiding our calls. And next time you see the SAHMs at school looking disheveled or in sweats while you are nicely dressed in your work clothes, know that for many of us, it is because instead of getting ourselves dressed nicely, we were cutting out crafts, stopping by the store for last minute supplies (probably something someone else was supposed to send in) and taking calls from moms who have cancelled, all to help out the classroom YOUR child is in.
Thanks for letting me vent, it has been one of those weeks for sure.
Also, stop sending your kids to school sick because you have to go to work, be a parent and stay home with your kid or find someone to do so. My children shouldn't have to sit next to your puking or sneezing sick kid just because you are lazy.