I left my ex when Ds was 6 months old. He was cheating with underage girls. That is a whole different post so I won't go into details. Ds is now 2 weeks shy of 5.
In January of 2011 ex was ordered to pay child support. He has never paid and I have stopped keeping track of his arrearages. I don't want nor do I need the money. I make plenty at my job and DF is well paid also. It would be nice to be able to put the CS into savings in addition to the money I put aside each month for Ds when he graduates.
When the CS was ordered custody was also established. I was awarded sole physical custody with visitation at my discretion. Ex has never asked to see Ds and hasn't seen him since December 2010. Legal custody was awarded 50/50 which frankly makes no sense to me because ex has never had an interest in being a dad. My DF has had that role since Ds was 16 months old.
In any event I recently found out that ex is now working. This is the first job he has had since we had Ds. I'm trying to decide whether I should inform the friend of court and push to have the CS order followed. The only thing that is deterring me is that this September when DF and I get married I am going to petition for full legal custody. DF plans to petition to adopt Ds 6 months after we are married. In my state they generally don't allow step parent adoption until you've been married at least a year but in my county it takes 6-9 months for the adoption process and finalization so we are going to petition early to have it finalized around the one year mark.
What would you do ladies? Leave it alone or pursue enforcement of the CS order? I'm really torn on this and my family is no help. Some say leave it and others say pursue it.
ETA:I am aware that what he has done is considered abandonment however he will still be held liable for the arrearages that occurred before the adoption finalization.
Thank you ladies for the input.
My question is now null and void however because today I received a shock when I opened my mailbox. I knew ex's social security number was flagged but didn't realize it would make a difference. I received a $140 CS check in the mail today. He is being garnished.