No matter how long DH is down there or how long we have sex and no matter what tempo (he really does try to find the right one for me) or speed....it just doesn't work for me...ever. Sad I know. I help myself out at times but it just doesn't seems to be worth it because it's never a strong one and it seems like a waste of time. I fake it for him and squeeze my inner muscles and most of the time he never knows....I want to be close to him in this way...I just don't get to the finish line. Something is wrong with me I guess. Do you ladies have this issue? Anybody? and what do you do about it?