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Is it acceptable to ask my son's teacher about a parent?

Posted by on Apr. 19, 2013 at 7:26 AM
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My son's friend invited him over this afternoon. This boy came to my son's birthday last weekend, he seems like a good kid with good parents. His mom texted me and said my son could stay the night. I haven't met the mom or step dad so I said we'll play it by ear. I'm taking my son over this afternoon to meet his mom before I drop him my son off. I hadn't really planned in letting him stay all night since I don't know the family. We're new to this area and I thought I might ask the teacher about the boy's mom. Would this be ok to do? My ex husband is in jail for raping his daughter so sometimes I can be overprotective. Is it reasonable to make my son come home tonight if the mom asks him to stay? He is 7 and has never stayed at a friend's house. I don't think he would be homesick but I'm not sure I'm comfortable letting him stay the night. I'd appreciate any respectful opinions. Thanks :)
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jbirdsladie27
by on Apr. 19, 2013 at 7:34 AM
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I'd go & make friends, see how you feel and play it by ear.

Your ex is a sick bastard & I'd be overprotective too.

Good luck!!
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jbirdsladie27
by on Apr. 19, 2013 at 7:36 AM
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P.S I wouldn't ask the teacher about the mom, I'd make my own judgements ( and I hate saying judgements bc I DESPISE judging others) but KWIM?
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libramoon007
by on Apr. 19, 2013 at 7:37 AM
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I think I would just get to know her yourself rather take someone else's opinion. I wouldn't let your stay just yet. Not until after a couple times or at all. That is just me. I wouldn't let my daughter stay at a friends especially if you are new to the area. Kind of odd for them invite when you are so new. That is just me though. 

Jennyanne322
by Ruby Member on Apr. 19, 2013 at 7:37 AM
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I don't see anything wrong with it, but how much time do you really think this woman interacts with the teacher? I would probably just see how she is when you meet her.
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LAXmom21
by Ruby Member on Apr. 19, 2013 at 7:38 AM
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I would play it by ear. Meet the mom and step dad, you'll get a gut feeling if you don't like them. I'm sure they are nice people.
I think asking the teacher would make her uncomfortable and I don't believe she'd want to say anything.
My son was about 6 or 7 when he had his first sleep over.
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jbirdsladie27
by on Apr. 19, 2013 at 7:38 AM
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Scratches head, why is it odd to invite the new kid?


Quoting libramoon007:

I think I would just get to know her yourself rather take someone else's opinion. I wouldn't let your stay just yet. Not until after a couple times or at all. That is just me. I wouldn't let my daughter stay at a friends especially if you are new to the area. Kind of odd for them invite when you are so new. That is just me though. 

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christina0607
by on Apr. 19, 2013 at 7:38 AM
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Why does he need to sleep over? Why not just go to the play date and end it? 

Honestly I find it odd that they would invite a child they don't know and don't know his mom. 

AmberRose1122
by on Apr. 19, 2013 at 7:39 AM
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I couldn't do it until I knew them well. He's only ever stayed with grandparents or my best friend.
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by Anonymous 1 on Apr. 19, 2013 at 7:40 AM
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No, it is no OK to ask the teacher. Get your parent directory, call her, and get to know her.

momo3fgr8tteens
by Ruby Member on Apr. 19, 2013 at 7:40 AM
The teacher cant tell you anything about the mom that is personal and I doubt she would really know anyways.
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