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Boys are NOT necessarily more immature than girls.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I am so sick of seeing this myth, stereotype, whatever you want to call it.

I have 2 boys, and they are plenty immature; I have lots of friends with girls who are just as immature as my boys if not more so in some ways.

I am tired of people saying boys need to be redshirted (meaning held back from Kindergarten another year if they turn 5 in the summer), I believe EVERY child is an individual and should not be grouped into some lump category based on gender.

My older son is 7 1/2 now and in 2nd grade. He started K at a young 5, he turned 5 two weeks before Kinder started. He had been in Prek for going on 3 yrs, he was in daycare and they start teaching at 2 1/2 or before.

He was ready so we sent him and he did great and still does great. He has been on the Honor Roll every grading period since K, is in the Accelerated Reader Program, he is very smart. ANd his teachers don't think he is any more immature than any of the other kids, boy or girl.

I just want to say, your child is an individual. Just because he's a boy doesn't mean he isn't ready for school.

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 19, 2013 at 10:52 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 19, 2013 at 11:03 AM

I do agree that boys and girls are different in the ways they play and act, but I still do not believe that makes boys and less mature than girls because they like to wrestle and play with bugs rather than play with dolls or have a tea party.

Quoting tennisgal:

and often times it does. yes, i agree, your child is an individual, but most people don't look at that as much as, "welp I can send him this year, so I'm going to."

the school environment is not necessarily the best environment for little boys. it does not encourage much of anything boys are naturally good at or naturally inclined to do.

I also disagree that boys are just as mature as girls. actually this one made LOL. I have four boys...am fully immersed in all things boy and they are completely different creatures than girls. maybe their immaturity is just louder and more spazstic than girls??


Marti123
by Silver Member on Apr. 19, 2013 at 11:04 AM

I am so lucky I have Sept boys that missed the cut off so I don't have to make this decision.  I agree with you except I personally see very few drawbacks to holding a child back one year just in case.

If you had held your DS back one year, do you think that would have detrimental or just the obvious, not beneficial? 

I was he youngest in my class growing up; I felt most of the pressure when pre-adolescent, adolescent years.  1-2 years can make a pretty big difference when interacting with peer groups.

othermom
by Ruby Member on Apr. 19, 2013 at 11:05 AM

It depends on the child. My son is pretty mature for his age, although he is forgetful

Anastacia1988
by on Apr. 19, 2013 at 11:05 AM
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This is from psychologytoday.org ... And PBS says the same. "Another little-known fact is that, because girls on average mature faster than boys, the male advantage in intelligence does not appear until after puberty, when boys and girls finish maturing and growing. Until then, girls are on average always more mature than boys at any given chronological age. So comparing boys and girls, say, at age 10, is like comparing boys at age 10 and girls at age 12. Naturally, older and more mature children have greater cognitive capacity than younger and less mature children. So if you compare boys and girls at the same chronological age, girls on average are more intelligent than boys. In other words, the sex difference in the rate of maturity masks and drowns the sex difference in general intelligence."
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 19, 2013 at 11:13 AM

exactly.

Quoting MamaTurney:

I don't think boys are more immature than girls. I think they're a different, more obvious kind of immature. Boys do gross things, make fart jokes and tease and pick on each other in public. Girls, on the other hand, are more sneaky and mean about their immaturity. Equal levels of immaturity, just different ways of expressing it.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 19, 2013 at 11:14 AM
My kid turned 5 AFTER school started. He was in KG for over a month before he turned 5. And, his teachers frequently tell us he is most advanced in his class.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 19, 2013 at 11:16 AM

I personally feel if I had held him back a year it would be detrimental to his education. He already knew everything they taught in PreK and rehashing that same material would have caused him to become bored with learning and I did not want that.

I was always the youngest in my class as well with a June birthday, but I never felt more pressured than any other kid and I always did well  in school and loved learning.

Quoting Marti123:

I am so lucky I have Sept boys that missed the cut off so I don't have to make this decision.  I agree with you except I personally see very few drawbacks to holding a child back one year just in case.

If you had held your DS back one year, do you think that would have detrimental or just the obvious, not beneficial? 

I was he youngest in my class growing up; I felt most of the pressure when pre-adolescent, adolescent years.  1-2 years can make a pretty big difference when interacting with peer groups.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 19, 2013 at 11:16 AM
Agree. I loathe the gender statements
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 19, 2013 at 11:19 AM

What I'm trying to get parents to understand is that we shouldn't listen to this type of thing- we need to treat our kids as individuals and not automatically assume a boy won't be ready because the experts say boys aren't as mature as girls. I'm sure this is true in some cases but the parents need to make that decision for themselves.

Quoting Anastacia1988:

This is from psychologytoday.org ... And PBS says the same. "Another little-known fact is that, because girls on average mature faster than boys, the male advantage in intelligence does not appear until after puberty, when boys and girls finish maturing and growing. Until then, girls are on average always more mature than boys at any given chronological age. So comparing boys and girls, say, at age 10, is like comparing boys at age 10 and girls at age 12. Naturally, older and more mature children have greater cognitive capacity than younger and less mature children. So if you compare boys and girls at the same chronological age, girls on average are more intelligent than boys. In other words, the sex difference in the rate of maturity masks and drowns the sex difference in general intelligence."


Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Apr. 19, 2013 at 11:21 AM

Yep, just look at this site. Lol.

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