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My poor son. Not fair at all!!

Anonymous
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I have 2 kids. My son is 8 and my daughter is 4. My son has been a big boy since he was about a month old. He was a very chubby baby and always in the >97th percentile. Unfortunately he has stayed big. He is about 75lbs and very chubby. He is very active....involved in sports and loves riding his bike and playing outside. He's a very good eater and by choice isn't a big junk food eater.....he never has been. He hardly drinks soda or juice, doesn't veg or snack on the couch, etc. ....

Then there is my daughter (4). She is a tiny little thing with awful eating habits. I don't give her whatever she wants but if I did she would literally eat candy all day every day. She refuses to drink anything besides apple juice (which I water wayyyyy down) and milk. Her eating habits are partially my fault....she dropped off the charts for weight and my dr told me to basically feed her whatever she wants (she would barely eat anything at 2) in order to get some meat on her bones. She is also incredibly picky. Now she is in the 6th percentile and we are working hard at getting her eating habits more healthy.

Anyways everybody always comments on how tiny DD is and how she skinny she is while my son has gotten made fun of at school, called names and has terrible self esteem. He told me last week that he really hopes he isn't chubby in high school :-( I feel like its so unfair to him. He has been checked by the dr who isn't concerned seeing as he has always been big but I'm very worried about his self esteem getting worse.......plus I think all the comments about his stick thin sister doesn't help!!
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 20, 2013 at 1:56 PM
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Christywf
by Gold Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 1:59 PM
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Maybe get him evaluated by a specialist to see why he is chubby.  Just to rule anything else out.  It is SO HARD to be the "fat kid" at school.  (as the kids say, not that I am bashing you at all). 

mommy2alissa
by Silver Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 2:01 PM
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Get him to a doc to figure out if there is a hormone or thyroid issue. Generally 'naturally big' means that something is off and they have not found it yet, especially if he eats right and is active. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 20, 2013 at 2:02 PM
What kind of specialist? I brought him to the dr because he gained a bunch of weight last fall (during football season no less where he was active in full pads 4 days a week 2.5 hours a day) He offered doing thyroid tests but when asked about other symptoms he had not a single one so he thought it would be a waste of time.


Quoting Christywf:

Maybe get him evaluated by a specialist to see why he is chubby.  Just to rule anything else out.  It is SO HARD to be the "fat kid" at school.  (as the kids say, not that I am bashing you at all). 


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 20, 2013 at 2:03 PM
If not my pedi then who should I take him too? My dr mentioned thyroid but honestly doesn't think that's the problem because he has absolutely none of the other symptoms


Quoting mommy2alissa:

Get him to a doc to figure out if there is a hormone or thyroid issue. Generally 'naturally big' means that something is off and they have not found it yet, especially if he eats right and is active. 


Sekirei
by LoKitty on Apr. 20, 2013 at 2:03 PM


Quoting mommy2alissa:

Get him to a doc to figure out if there is a hormone or thyroid issue. Generally 'naturally big' means that something is off and they have not found it yet, especially if he eats right and is active. 

This..

and it does suck for the bigger kids. Especially if they are active and all that. 

mommy2alissa
by Silver Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 2:06 PM

You can always ask for referrals. I would check thyroid first to rule it out, then go from there. 

Quoting Anonymous:

If not my pedi then who should I take him too? My dr mentioned thyroid but honestly doesn't think that's the problem because he has absolutely none of the other symptoms


Quoting mommy2alissa:

Get him to a doc to figure out if there is a hormone or thyroid issue. Generally 'naturally big' means that something is off and they have not found it yet, especially if he eats right and is active. 



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 20, 2013 at 2:09 PM

My son was chunky at 8 and very active, but when puberty hit he shot up 6 inches and thinned out.  Have him checked just to rule out thyroid issues but I bet a lot changes in the next couple of years if he stays active :)

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 20, 2013 at 2:09 PM
What about his eating? You said he has always been big, so it only makes sense you would feed him more because he's big? Have you seen a nutritionist?
CampClan
by Platinum Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 2:11 PM

IMO- tell him that her being stick thin isn't healthy either & maybe the 2 of you can come up with some ways to help his sister gain some weight? Especially since he likes to eat healthy... he could encourage her to eat healthy too! 

AlwaysKISA
by Ruby Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 2:13 PM
How tall Is he? 75 lb doesn't sound too bad for an 8 year old.
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