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Hidden Camera In Her Room!? Updated with New Link 6/24/13

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My daughter is almost 16. Last night, or early this morning, around 1:30am she contacted me completely freaked out, scared, and angry. She was at her dad's, had crawled into bed to go to sleep, turned off the light and noticed a green light glowing near her vanity mirror. She went over and pulled the scarf she has hanging on the side of the mirror and found a camera!

Needless to say, I went right up and got her. She is furious with her dad, who has admitted to doing it. She never wants to go back to his place again, which I totally understand and respect. She took lots of pictures of the camera before tearing it down and raising hell in the house to wake up her dad and step-mom.

Here is my issue. Part of me wants to file a police report, and part of me doesn't really see the point since she will never be going back over there. She doesn't want to file a report because like it or not he is her dad and doesn't really want him in jail, she just never wants to go over there again. Do I leave this alone since she is out of there, safe, and will never be going back? Do I file a report in case his reasons are not those of a nosey parent and I had kids with a perv?

What would you do?

Oh and he admitted to putting the camera in her room, if that makes a difference in your thoughts and opinions.

ETA: He said he put it in her room because he wanted to know what she is doing in her room because she spends most of her time in her room when she is there.

I asked him why he just didn't talk to her and he just shrug.

She is honestly a very good girl. She has never been in any trouble outside of slacking off in school and having restrictions put on her until she got grades up. I am very diligent as a parent and do random spot checks on all her social media devices/apps. She doesn't have any bad friends that I wish she didn't hang around. 

Also, please know that I am reading all the responses. I am not responding a lot because I am genuinely digesting what you ladies are saying and talking to my daughter about it. Thank you all for helping us through this.

We are headed to the police station now. We have the camera. She refused to give it back to him, knowing she had undressed with it on last night. It is a digital camera that has to be downloaded or whatever so it is all stored in the memory of the camera. I will update when we get home.

Update from after being with the police on page 41.

Sunday update on page 84.

Monday update on page 99.

Tuesday update on page 106.

Link to new update (6/24/13) http://www.cafemom.com/group/115189/forums/read/18697445/Update_on_Hidden_Camera_Post?last#last    

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:11 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 163 on Apr. 23, 2013 at 1:00 AM

I can't imagine the anger and hurt you and your daughter are feeling right now. I am not sure I could even stomach hearing more details, the implication is more than clear. 

So many hugs to you and your daughter. This is just so........ I can't even find the words. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 163 on Apr. 23, 2013 at 1:31 AM
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Good! I hope his ass rots in jail for a very long time. I also hope that Bubba teaches him what it is like to be some ones victim. 

livric
by Platinum Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 2:13 AM
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I have been following your situation....  You are doing a great job mama!!  continue to support your DD and hang in there.    look after yourself as well.  stay strong HUGS.  I am so glad your DD was able to get some help straight away with someone she knows!!  that is a step in the right direction..

Anonymous
by Anonymous 163 on Apr. 23, 2013 at 2:20 AM

i bet you feel stupid now for not taking it serious and acting sooner. 

TSNDDY
by Ruby Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 2:23 AM
I'm so sorry, :(
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oOoLeilanioOo
by Gold Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 2:28 AM

I hope he stays there for a long time! (((Hugs)))

Anonymous
by Anonymous 166 on Apr. 23, 2013 at 2:33 AM
when I was 16 I masturbated often. How mortifying.
MzShorty787
by on Apr. 23, 2013 at 2:36 AM
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I wanna start by saying I'm by far not one to try to push religion on anyone and w/ that bn said I would suggest maybe some kinda Christian counselling as well as a regular Dr. Maybe someone to help her w/ letting go and healing and forgiving. I send my prayers and wish y'all the best of luck w/ everything.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 15 on Apr. 23, 2013 at 2:39 AM
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STFU

Quoting Anonymous:

i bet you feel stupid now for not taking it serious and acting sooner. 

Toonkasmommy
by Platinum Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 2:39 AM
Good :)
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