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Hidden Camera In Her Room!? Updated with New Link 6/24/13

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My daughter is almost 16. Last night, or early this morning, around 1:30am she contacted me completely freaked out, scared, and angry. She was at her dad's, had crawled into bed to go to sleep, turned off the light and noticed a green light glowing near her vanity mirror. She went over and pulled the scarf she has hanging on the side of the mirror and found a camera!

Needless to say, I went right up and got her. She is furious with her dad, who has admitted to doing it. She never wants to go back to his place again, which I totally understand and respect. She took lots of pictures of the camera before tearing it down and raising hell in the house to wake up her dad and step-mom.

Here is my issue. Part of me wants to file a police report, and part of me doesn't really see the point since she will never be going back over there. She doesn't want to file a report because like it or not he is her dad and doesn't really want him in jail, she just never wants to go over there again. Do I leave this alone since she is out of there, safe, and will never be going back? Do I file a report in case his reasons are not those of a nosey parent and I had kids with a perv?

What would you do?

Oh and he admitted to putting the camera in her room, if that makes a difference in your thoughts and opinions.

ETA: He said he put it in her room because he wanted to know what she is doing in her room because she spends most of her time in her room when she is there.

I asked him why he just didn't talk to her and he just shrug.

She is honestly a very good girl. She has never been in any trouble outside of slacking off in school and having restrictions put on her until she got grades up. I am very diligent as a parent and do random spot checks on all her social media devices/apps. She doesn't have any bad friends that I wish she didn't hang around. 

Also, please know that I am reading all the responses. I am not responding a lot because I am genuinely digesting what you ladies are saying and talking to my daughter about it. Thank you all for helping us through this.

We are headed to the police station now. We have the camera. She refused to give it back to him, knowing she had undressed with it on last night. It is a digital camera that has to be downloaded or whatever so it is all stored in the memory of the camera. I will update when we get home.

Update from after being with the police on page 41.

Sunday update on page 84.

Monday update on page 99.

Tuesday update on page 106.

Link to new update (6/24/13) http://www.cafemom.com/group/115189/forums/read/18697445/Update_on_Hidden_Camera_Post?last#last    

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:11 PM
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C12H22O11addict
by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:35 PM
This:

Quoting HandMmom12:

What was the purpose for the camera? Was it deviant in nature, was he spying on her? Why would he do that in the first place?
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dom3269
by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:36 PM
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If shes a very good girl, that should telk u right there his reasons for doing it are perverted and shady. File the report!
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Charliesmommy11
by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:37 PM
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I would have filed a police report that same night before he had time to delete video footage ...
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mrsrodgers0703
by Ruby Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:38 PM
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That's completely disgusting. She obviously changes clothes, and other private things that he didn't need to see in her room. I don't think I would accept his explanation. That doesn't make any sense and he crossed a huge line. Disgusting.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:38 PM
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Talk to an attorney.  There are most likely possible future situations wherein having done something versus having done nothing will make a difference.

chanizen
by Silver Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:39 PM
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File a report. Then a custody modification. That is seriously deranged.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:39 PM
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 Report it now!!!

mrsrodgers0703
by Ruby Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:40 PM
I know its illegal to have them in the bathroom if you are videoing people who don't know the camera is there. I would assume the same about bedrooms, but I could be wrong.


Quoting MrsDavidB25:

 Oh geez. Is it illegal to put a camera in your own house? IDK. I mean if he is a perv he needs to be punished but I am not sure the law would do anything if he tells them he is suspicious she was doing drugs at thats why the caemra was there etc?  IDK.


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chanizen
by Silver Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:41 PM
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It could be considered child porn.


Quoting MrsDavidB25:

 Oh geez. Is it illegal to put a camera in your own house? IDK. I mean if he is a perv he needs to be punished but I am not sure the law would do anything if he tells them he is suspicious she was doing drugs at thats why the caemra was there etc?  IDK.


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MrsDavidB25
by Stacey on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:42 PM
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 :But even in your own home? I have no clue about the laws about that. The whole situation is strange.

Quoting mrsrodgers0703:
I know its illegal to have them in the bathroom if you are videoing people who don't know the camera is there. I would assume the same about bedrooms, but I could be wrong.


Quoting MrsDavidB25:

 Oh geez. Is it illegal to put a camera in your own house? IDK. I mean if he is a perv he needs to be punished but I am not sure the law would do anything if he tells them he is suspicious she was doing drugs at thats why the caemra was there etc?  IDK.


 

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