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Hidden Camera In Her Room!? Updated with New Link 6/24/13

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My daughter is almost 16. Last night, or early this morning, around 1:30am she contacted me completely freaked out, scared, and angry. She was at her dad's, had crawled into bed to go to sleep, turned off the light and noticed a green light glowing near her vanity mirror. She went over and pulled the scarf she has hanging on the side of the mirror and found a camera!

Needless to say, I went right up and got her. She is furious with her dad, who has admitted to doing it. She never wants to go back to his place again, which I totally understand and respect. She took lots of pictures of the camera before tearing it down and raising hell in the house to wake up her dad and step-mom.

Here is my issue. Part of me wants to file a police report, and part of me doesn't really see the point since she will never be going back over there. She doesn't want to file a report because like it or not he is her dad and doesn't really want him in jail, she just never wants to go over there again. Do I leave this alone since she is out of there, safe, and will never be going back? Do I file a report in case his reasons are not those of a nosey parent and I had kids with a perv?

What would you do?

Oh and he admitted to putting the camera in her room, if that makes a difference in your thoughts and opinions.

ETA: He said he put it in her room because he wanted to know what she is doing in her room because she spends most of her time in her room when she is there.

I asked him why he just didn't talk to her and he just shrug.

She is honestly a very good girl. She has never been in any trouble outside of slacking off in school and having restrictions put on her until she got grades up. I am very diligent as a parent and do random spot checks on all her social media devices/apps. She doesn't have any bad friends that I wish she didn't hang around. 

Also, please know that I am reading all the responses. I am not responding a lot because I am genuinely digesting what you ladies are saying and talking to my daughter about it. Thank you all for helping us through this.

We are headed to the police station now. We have the camera. She refused to give it back to him, knowing she had undressed with it on last night. It is a digital camera that has to be downloaded or whatever so it is all stored in the memory of the camera. I will update when we get home.

Update from after being with the police on page 41.

Sunday update on page 84.

Monday update on page 99.

Tuesday update on page 106.

Link to new update (6/24/13) http://www.cafemom.com/group/115189/forums/read/18697445/Update_on_Hidden_Camera_Post?last#last    

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:11 PM
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jella31
by Gold Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:22 PM
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That's makes me effing sick and want to vomit. What a sick pervert. He needs To be investigated. Prolly has cameras in the bathroom room too.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:24 PM
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I don't know..
Kortlynia
by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:24 PM
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I would report it.  You're DD may be out of there for good, but what if he does something like that to someone else? 

Mrs.Kubalabuku
by Ruby Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:28 PM
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Yes, file a report.  It is the best way to protect her.  Has he said WHY he put a camera in her room?  If he starts crossing other barriers, like stalking, harassing, etc having this already filed can save valuable time in taking further legal protective actions.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:31 PM
Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

Yes, file a report.  It is the best way to protect her.  Has he said WHY he put a camera in her room?  If he starts crossing other barriers, like stalking, harassing, etc having this already filed can save valuable time in taking further legal protective actions.

I posted the reason he gave on the first page. Basically he said he did it because he wanted to know what she was doing in her room when she was over there.

MrsDavidB25
by Stacey on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:32 PM
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 Oh geez. Is it illegal to put a camera in your own house? IDK. I mean if he is a perv he needs to be punished but I am not sure the law would do anything if he tells them he is suspicious she was doing drugs at thats why the caemra was there etc?  IDK.

MrsDavidB25
by Stacey on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:32 PM

 So weird.

Mrs.Kubalabuku
by Ruby Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:32 PM
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Still, file a report.  Having a solid paper trail should things escalate is going to prove vital in keeping her safe and protecting her privacy.  He probably wouldn't go to jail just for having a camera up there, unless an investigation finds things like child porn, naked footage of her, etc.  And in that case, he NEEDS to go to jail, and your DD should be able to understand that.


Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

Yes, file a report.  It is the best way to protect her.  Has he said WHY he put a camera in her room?  If he starts crossing other barriers, like stalking, harassing, etc having this already filed can save valuable time in taking further legal protective actions.

I posted the reason he gave on the first page. Basically he said he did it because he wanted to know what she was doing in her room when she was over there.



Roxygurl
by Emerald Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:33 PM
Well I don't think reporting it to the cops would do anything, but I'd contact an attorney and see what they say
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:34 PM
Police
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