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Hidden Camera In Her Room!? Updated with New Link 6/24/13

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My daughter is almost 16. Last night, or early this morning, around 1:30am she contacted me completely freaked out, scared, and angry. She was at her dad's, had crawled into bed to go to sleep, turned off the light and noticed a green light glowing near her vanity mirror. She went over and pulled the scarf she has hanging on the side of the mirror and found a camera!

Needless to say, I went right up and got her. She is furious with her dad, who has admitted to doing it. She never wants to go back to his place again, which I totally understand and respect. She took lots of pictures of the camera before tearing it down and raising hell in the house to wake up her dad and step-mom.

Here is my issue. Part of me wants to file a police report, and part of me doesn't really see the point since she will never be going back over there. She doesn't want to file a report because like it or not he is her dad and doesn't really want him in jail, she just never wants to go over there again. Do I leave this alone since she is out of there, safe, and will never be going back? Do I file a report in case his reasons are not those of a nosey parent and I had kids with a perv?

What would you do?

Oh and he admitted to putting the camera in her room, if that makes a difference in your thoughts and opinions.

ETA: He said he put it in her room because he wanted to know what she is doing in her room because she spends most of her time in her room when she is there.

I asked him why he just didn't talk to her and he just shrug.

She is honestly a very good girl. She has never been in any trouble outside of slacking off in school and having restrictions put on her until she got grades up. I am very diligent as a parent and do random spot checks on all her social media devices/apps. She doesn't have any bad friends that I wish she didn't hang around. 

Also, please know that I am reading all the responses. I am not responding a lot because I am genuinely digesting what you ladies are saying and talking to my daughter about it. Thank you all for helping us through this.

We are headed to the police station now. We have the camera. She refused to give it back to him, knowing she had undressed with it on last night. It is a digital camera that has to be downloaded or whatever so it is all stored in the memory of the camera. I will update when we get home.

Update from after being with the police on page 41.

Sunday update on page 84.

Monday update on page 99.

Tuesday update on page 106.

Link to new update (6/24/13) http://www.cafemom.com/group/115189/forums/read/18697445/Update_on_Hidden_Camera_Post?last#last    

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:11 PM
Replies (1101-1110):
Anonymous
by Anonymous 181 on Jun. 16, 2013 at 3:05 AM
Update please.
Beenhereforever
by Gold Member on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:41 AM
Yes update...
Uss.Alex
by on Jun. 23, 2013 at 8:35 PM

 you are not attorney.... so I will just smile for your comment :)

Quoting kailu1835:

Who divorced who and what reasons anyone has are completely moot. It is 100% illegal to have hidden cameras in places where a person has a reasonable expectation of privacy. Bedrooms and bathrooms are specifically listed by law. So regardless of intention, it is illegal, and if he has captured any images of her without her clothes on, he can and probably will be labeled a sex offender in possession of child pornography.

Quoting Uss.Alex:



tiffany...

you have only read HER SIDE of this... he divorced HER and lives with another woman... it makes sense that she willnot say good things of her ex husband because she is still hurt. we can't decide she is RIGHT without knowing the other party's arguments. I highly doubt that the police filed charges against the father...



Quoting tiffanyrachelle:

I could see the purpose of this camera if she were the type to be sneaking out, drugs, alcohol etc. but you say she's a good kid that leads me to believe that he had this up for perverted reasons........

 

quinnsmom715
by Donna on Jun. 23, 2013 at 8:37 PM

just saw this post again so bump for update..

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jun. 24, 2013 at 3:02 PM

Bump for update

gabenmikeysmom
by Silver Member on Jul. 10, 2013 at 10:21 PM
Update???
lifeglow
by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 10:26 PM
Wow just wow. I completely speechless. Thats messed up.
Jabojoe
by Gold Member on Oct. 21, 2013 at 8:46 PM
I live in Ewing right next to Trenton but I've never heard of Califon and I've lived here all my life. Gonna go check google maps.


Quoting Elyssa414:

Totally off the topic of this post, but I'm from Califon, NJ- near Trenton! :)

I live in Seattle now.




Quoting babyblue415:

haha that's funny, i'm in new jersey.

Quoting TrentonGirl:

Don't feel bad. I didn't even know there was a Trenton ga till I started dating my dh. Lol and it was only 35-45mins from where I grew up.








Quoting babyblue415:

oh ok, i feel silly now lol i forgot there is more trentons in the states and not just one.

Quoting TrentonGirl:

I live in Trenton ga











Quoting babyblue415:

just noticed your sceen name. do you live in Trenton? I do. I'm in North Trenton.

Quoting TrentonGirl:

My stepdaughter spends a lot of time in her room when she is here but I would never allow my dh to put a camera in her room. That is her room. She changes in there and when she is older she might have "personal time". Many teens do. In our home we don't allow locks on our kids bedroom doors tho. If we are about to go in we will knock, wait a second then go in.









If he wanted to know why she spends so much time in there he should of asked her. He might not of thought anything about it. You know him better then anyone on here what does your gut tell you?









Good luck tho.












Jabojoe
by Gold Member on Oct. 21, 2013 at 8:48 PM
I live in Ewing and I've never heard of Califon either. Where the heck IS that??


Quoting babyblue415:

never heard of it actually, but i think you made a wise choice when u moved away form this crazy place











Quoting Elyssa414:

Totally off the topic of this post, but I'm from Califon, NJ- near Trenton! :)

I live in Seattle now.




Quoting babyblue415:

haha that's funny, i'm in new jersey.

Quoting TrentonGirl:

Don't feel bad. I didn't even know there was a Trenton ga till I started dating my dh. Lol and it was only 35-45mins from where I grew up.








Quoting babyblue415:

oh ok, i feel silly now lol i forgot there is more trentons in the states and not just one.

Quoting TrentonGirl:

I live in Trenton ga











Quoting babyblue415:

just noticed your sceen name. do you live in Trenton? I do. I'm in North Trenton.

Quoting TrentonGirl:

My stepdaughter spends a lot of time in her room when she is here but I would never allow my dh to put a camera in her room. That is her room. She changes in there and when she is older she might have "personal time". Many teens do. In our home we don't allow locks on our kids bedroom doors tho. If we are about to go in we will knock, wait a second then go in.









If he wanted to know why she spends so much time in there he should of asked her. He might not of thought anything about it. You know him better then anyone on here what does your gut tell you?









Good luck tho.












babyblue415
by champagne on Oct. 22, 2013 at 2:01 PM

who knows. where in Ewing are you?

Quoting Jabojoe:

I live in Ewing and I've never heard of Califon either. Where the heck IS that??


Quoting babyblue415:

never heard of it actually, but i think you made a wise choice when u moved away form this crazy place











Quoting Elyssa414:

Totally off the topic of this post, but I'm from Califon, NJ- near Trenton! :)

I live in Seattle now.




Quoting babyblue415:

haha that's funny, i'm in new jersey.

Quoting TrentonGirl:

Don't feel bad. I didn't even know there was a Trenton ga till I started dating my dh. Lol and it was only 35-45mins from where I grew up.








Quoting babyblue415:

oh ok, i feel silly now lol i forgot there is more trentons in the states and not just one.

Quoting TrentonGirl:

I live in Trenton ga











Quoting babyblue415:

just noticed your sceen name. do you live in Trenton? I do. I'm in North Trenton.

Quoting TrentonGirl:

My stepdaughter spends a lot of time in her room when she is here but I would never allow my dh to put a camera in her room. That is her room. She changes in there and when she is older she might have "personal time". Many teens do. In our home we don't allow locks on our kids bedroom doors tho. If we are about to go in we will knock, wait a second then go in.









If he wanted to know why she spends so much time in there he should of asked her. He might not of thought anything about it. You know him better then anyone on here what does your gut tell you?









Good luck tho.













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