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Hidden Camera In Her Room!? Updated with New Link 6/24/13

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My daughter is almost 16. Last night, or early this morning, around 1:30am she contacted me completely freaked out, scared, and angry. She was at her dad's, had crawled into bed to go to sleep, turned off the light and noticed a green light glowing near her vanity mirror. She went over and pulled the scarf she has hanging on the side of the mirror and found a camera!

Needless to say, I went right up and got her. She is furious with her dad, who has admitted to doing it. She never wants to go back to his place again, which I totally understand and respect. She took lots of pictures of the camera before tearing it down and raising hell in the house to wake up her dad and step-mom.

Here is my issue. Part of me wants to file a police report, and part of me doesn't really see the point since she will never be going back over there. She doesn't want to file a report because like it or not he is her dad and doesn't really want him in jail, she just never wants to go over there again. Do I leave this alone since she is out of there, safe, and will never be going back? Do I file a report in case his reasons are not those of a nosey parent and I had kids with a perv?

What would you do?

Oh and he admitted to putting the camera in her room, if that makes a difference in your thoughts and opinions.

ETA: He said he put it in her room because he wanted to know what she is doing in her room because she spends most of her time in her room when she is there.

I asked him why he just didn't talk to her and he just shrug.

She is honestly a very good girl. She has never been in any trouble outside of slacking off in school and having restrictions put on her until she got grades up. I am very diligent as a parent and do random spot checks on all her social media devices/apps. She doesn't have any bad friends that I wish she didn't hang around. 

Also, please know that I am reading all the responses. I am not responding a lot because I am genuinely digesting what you ladies are saying and talking to my daughter about it. Thank you all for helping us through this.

We are headed to the police station now. We have the camera. She refused to give it back to him, knowing she had undressed with it on last night. It is a digital camera that has to be downloaded or whatever so it is all stored in the memory of the camera. I will update when we get home.

Update from after being with the police on page 41.

Sunday update on page 84.

Monday update on page 99.

Tuesday update on page 106.

Link to new update (6/24/13)    

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:11 PM
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by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:43 PM
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File a report. The police might be able to investigate his computer to see if he has been sharing the videos with other pervs.
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:43 PM


Quoting Charliesmommy11:

I would have filed a police report that same night before he had time to delete video footage ...

We have the camera. She refused to give it back to him because she knows it has video of her naked from after showers, changing clothes, etc.

by Ruby Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:43 PM
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I would file a report. it doesnt matter if she doesn't want him to get in trouble, he NEEDS to get in trouble! that is disgusting. There is no good reason to put a camera in her room.
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by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:44 PM

I was going to ask his reason, then I saw the edit.

That doesn't sound right; my dh DOESN'T want to know what our girls do in their room!!!
Def talk to an attorney.  There are situations that might arise where having filed charges, etc is the right thing to have done; and there are other possible future situations in which it will be most adventageous not to have filed any charges.  I'm thinking that, between the reason he gave and her being a "good girl", you're going to be better off in the future if you file charges right now.  The only advantage is that, if he's a perv and he either has or will do this otherwise, you will be dragged into it if something like this comes up in the future with another girl.

by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:45 PM
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That's creepy and I would want a police report filed

by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:45 PM
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I am disgusted to read this. You do realize he more than likely saw her naked right? The thought of any father seeing his daughter naked should disgust him, hers went and put a camera in her room....... I would call the police, father or not, there's something wrong with him. He has just violated your daughter and given her no reason to trust men. Hopefully she can move on okay and write her father off as the disgusting pervert he is. 

by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:46 PM
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 I'd file charges. Sorry but children do have a right to privacy, especially in their bedrooms. 

GAWD! depending on her age she damn well could have been masturbating in there at anytime and he's been watching her. What about her dressing and undressing?  Sorry, regardless of why he did it it's sick. If nothing else I'd make children services aware.

You can't simply say She's Not Going Back. If he has visitation you can't stop his visits without a court order. To do so could put you in contempt of court. Protect her and yourself, file a report.

He could have simply ordered that she kept her bedroom door open.  ( if he suspected drugs, etc)

by Ruby Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:47 PM
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There would be no way for her father to edit what kinds of photos of your daughter...meaning that yeah, he probably got photos of her undressing, naked... 

I would call the cops. I really would. If he just wanted to know what she was up to, he should have had a conversation with her. Frankly, most teens do spend a lot of time in their's not abnormal behavior for that age. 

A middle aged man secretly taking photos of his daughter where there would be an expectation of privacy...THAT'S abnormal behavior. Abnormal, disturbing and very possibly illegal. 

by Anonymous 6 on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:48 PM
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Since it's her bedroom, I assume she gets dressed in there, that's child porn.

Quoting MrsDavidB25:

 Oh geez. Is it illegal to put a camera in your own house? IDK. I mean if he is a perv he needs to be punished but I am not sure the law would do anything if he tells them he is suspicious she was doing drugs at thats why the caemra was there etc?  IDK.

by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:48 PM
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I'd call the non emergency line of your local police department and tell them.. I'm not sure that there is anything that can be done but he had to of known that was crossing a serious and disturbing line and having a paper trail of his actions in the system could be a good thing!!!! There is no excuse for secretly taping a 16 year old in a room she likely changes her clothes!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously creepy perv status!!!!!!!!!!!
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