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Hidden Camera In Her Room!? Updated with New Link 6/24/13

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My daughter is almost 16. Last night, or early this morning, around 1:30am she contacted me completely freaked out, scared, and angry. She was at her dad's, had crawled into bed to go to sleep, turned off the light and noticed a green light glowing near her vanity mirror. She went over and pulled the scarf she has hanging on the side of the mirror and found a camera!

Needless to say, I went right up and got her. She is furious with her dad, who has admitted to doing it. She never wants to go back to his place again, which I totally understand and respect. She took lots of pictures of the camera before tearing it down and raising hell in the house to wake up her dad and step-mom.

Here is my issue. Part of me wants to file a police report, and part of me doesn't really see the point since she will never be going back over there. She doesn't want to file a report because like it or not he is her dad and doesn't really want him in jail, she just never wants to go over there again. Do I leave this alone since she is out of there, safe, and will never be going back? Do I file a report in case his reasons are not those of a nosey parent and I had kids with a perv?

What would you do?

Oh and he admitted to putting the camera in her room, if that makes a difference in your thoughts and opinions.

ETA: He said he put it in her room because he wanted to know what she is doing in her room because she spends most of her time in her room when she is there.

I asked him why he just didn't talk to her and he just shrug.

She is honestly a very good girl. She has never been in any trouble outside of slacking off in school and having restrictions put on her until she got grades up. I am very diligent as a parent and do random spot checks on all her social media devices/apps. She doesn't have any bad friends that I wish she didn't hang around. 

Also, please know that I am reading all the responses. I am not responding a lot because I am genuinely digesting what you ladies are saying and talking to my daughter about it. Thank you all for helping us through this.

We are headed to the police station now. We have the camera. She refused to give it back to him, knowing she had undressed with it on last night. It is a digital camera that has to be downloaded or whatever so it is all stored in the memory of the camera. I will update when we get home.

Update from after being with the police on page 41.

Sunday update on page 84.

Monday update on page 99.

Tuesday update on page 106.

Link to new update (6/24/13)    

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:11 PM
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by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:50 PM
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I would be livid, he sounds like a perv.

by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:50 PM
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Quoting ablessedlife:

File a report. The police might be able to investigate his computer to see if he has been sharing the videos with other pervs.

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by Anonymous 6 on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:51 PM

As I understand it, yes, you have to let people know they are being recorded if it's a situation where they would usually expect privacy. Now out in public you don't have too. I would also think that since she probably gets dressed in there it could be considered child pornography

Quoting MrsDavidB25:

 :But even in your own home? I have no clue about the laws about that. The whole situation is strange.

Quoting mrsrodgers0703:
I know its illegal to have them in the bathroom if you are videoing people who don't know the camera is there. I would assume the same about bedrooms, but I could be wrong.

Quoting MrsDavidB25:

 Oh geez. Is it illegal to put a camera in your own house? IDK. I mean if he is a perv he needs to be punished but I am not sure the law would do anything if he tells them he is suspicious she was doing drugs at thats why the caemra was there etc?  IDK.


by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:52 PM
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File the report. He likely has videos of her nude.
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by Anonymous 8 on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:52 PM
This reminds of a movie I saw a few weeks ago.
by Anonymous 9 on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:54 PM
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Not sure if you have court ordered visitation. I suspect you do. Go to see a judge about getting his rights revoked for this.  He will still need to pay support, but it will be your kids choice if she ever wants to see him again. INSIST you be given all picutres taken of here. Remind him if she is unclothed or partially unclothed in any of them, it's a child pornography offense....

If you want to call the cops=-do that instead.  But I am not so sure that will benefit your child.

by Anonymous 7 on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:55 PM
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I think I would call the cops anyways. And I would ask for an investigation to find out exactly what has been recorded and where it is stored. 

Does your dd get dressed in that room? 

by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:55 PM
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Please file and have an investigation. I honestly hope he was not doing anything vile. But her very well might have been. Does she change in her bedroom? Honestly his reasoning is a bs excuse! It's your job to protect your kids. Even if its from their father.
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by Anonymous 10 on Apr. 20, 2013 at 3:57 PM
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I cant believe there is even a second thought! He is fucked up and as a child whose father molested me for years and after my mother knew she didnt do EVERYTHING to make me feel protected and in the right for telling i will assure you there is nothing better for you to do than go balls to the walls and show your daughter she is your world and you will stop at nothing to ensure her safety and protection esp from sick fuckers like him! And dont make it her decision its way too hard and emotionally confusing, trust me.. your the mother dont put this back on her it doesnt matter if she is 16 im 25 and still dont know to love or hate my father... be her strength and warrior she needs it.
by Anonymous 11 on Apr. 20, 2013 at 4:00 PM
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I can't believe you did not call the police! There is NO excuse to have a camera in any bedroom , especially one a minor uses. This is perverted and creepy.

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