I was married or with my exh for the past 13 years. Shortly after we started dating he was diagnosed with herpes. At that point, I was already exposed, so there wasn't anything that I could do to protect myself. Now, all these years later we are divorced and I'm stuck trying to date with this damn virus. I hate it! I hate the judgment that comes when I finally tell a man that I carry an std. I hate the rejection when they just suddenly lose interest after I've told them my biggest secret. I hate that I'm left feeling dirty and like I'm something disgusting, when I didn't do anything wrong.
My ex didn't know he had it when we started sleeping together. Anyways, I'd been with other men before that. Either one of us could have brought this into our relationship. Someone exposed him without telling him. Im sure that happens a lot. Maybe I should just quit being honest? But then id have an std and no character.
I just wish people wouldn't be so judgmental about having herpes. It's hurtful and I'm tired of being hurt and rejected. I got enough of that while I was married.