The girls need to live with me and there is nothing i can do about it. ETA
about a month before my friend died her and her dh separated and he took a job and moved 4+ hours away.
When there mother died they went to live with some woman there father knew that the girls didn't even know. Neither were happy about it but didn't think they had an option. They didn't know we told him they could live with us (we didn't know if they would want to since we live right next door to there old house where there mom died) he told us we would see how This situation worked for a while.
Well it didn't the girls were basically on there own. A went to live with her dad and K went to stay with a friend. We again told there dad the girls could live with us. He again said we will see how this works out.
Ok so fast forward to last month K moved in with her dad and sister. I talk to the girls every day and they just don't seem happy. This weekend they came down and stayed with us and today when he came to get Them neither one wanted to go home, they wanted to stay with us.
Apparently there dad is always gone, out with friends and to the bar. They are having to fend for themselves and they are both missing there childhood. It absolutely broke my heart to see these beautiful vibrant girls so broken and sad. They have been through so much, they deserve to be happy and there just not.
I want the girls to live here with us and we found out this weekend that's what they want too and there is not a damn thing we can do about it.
I know my friend wouldn't want her girls living like this. Her girls were her everything. I wish we could just go get the girls and bring them home With us.
It's the worst feeling To know what these girls need and our hands are tied. I have been a mess since they left.
ETA: I made some phone calls yesterday and found out a lot of info I didn't know. Dh and I don't want to take custody from there dad we just want them to be in a home where they are important and not a burden.
We are going to see if he will let the girls stay the summer and then see if he will just let them stay.