So when I first met my ex husband he had a son already and he was just a baby he was only 1. So when we got married we were married for 4 years so he is now 6 years old and I have learned to love him as one of my own and he even calls me momma Julie( he calls his bio mom 'mommy'). My ex is going to get married again and they told him he didn't take to well. When my exs fiance was going in for a hug and told him ' I'm going to to be ur step mom' the little boy didn't hug her back and said 'no or not! I already have a step mom!' She was stunned and didn't know what to do. That's when my ex asked his son what he meant and he told his dad that I told him ' he will be my step son and love him even if daddy and I are not together' And walked off. I guess that is when my ex called me and starting yelling that I have brainwashed his son! Brainwashed!? I didn't know what he was talking about and that's when he told me the story. I said I was sorry but that I do still love him and I miss my little guy. What do you want me to do act as if he never existed? I helped raise him for four years! And what I really told him was that ' I will always love him and he will always be my step son by heart even if daddy and I arnt together and that he could still call my momma Julie it doesn't bother me and when ever he wants to come over to my place and play with his brother he is more then welcome to with daddy's permission.' He is still to young to understand the adult world. So should I tell him that I'm not his step mom anymore or should I just let him figure that out on his own as he gets older?