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"deal breakers"

Anonymous
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Besides physically harming the other, there are no deal breakers in my marriage. We took vows, we said forever. I didn't say "til death do us part or one of us screw up". I find it sickening that nobody takes their vows seriously these days. You made a commitment to be with that person for the rest of your life. How are you supposed to teach your children the value of your word, if you don't follow through. There is always a way to work through your marital issues, and throwing in
The towel and getting a divorce shows you are weak, selfish, and not willing or are too lazy to put in the work.

Sorry if anyone is offended, bit that is just how I feel personally.
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 22, 2013 at 10:06 AM
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Islandmom2boys
by Platinum Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 10:10 AM
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We didn't say any vows, so basically there are none to break in our marriage.

But abuse, cheating, and a few others are deal breakers for us.


Lalalie
by on Apr. 22, 2013 at 2:44 PM
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There are always circumstances worthy of reconsideration. I find it more important to teach my children that if they are unhappy and they don't have to be, then it is okay to move on. I don't want them to feel trapped with another person, when they could find happiness elsewhere.

Sometimes in the end... it just doesn't work.

ColleenF30
by Lube Girl on Apr. 22, 2013 at 2:45 PM

As long as you both shall love...was in my brothers vows. I just kinda stared.

xomrs.chase
by Ruby Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 2:46 PM
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Hurting physically or cheating and its over. No ifs ands or buts.
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AmaliaD
by Platinum Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 2:47 PM

what about the wife that tries to fix things - to work on things and the dh cannot admit there are big problems.    and wont work on - or listen to - anything about the issue - what should she do?   he isnt following his vows - because that isnt love and respect.   but what then?  suffer alone forever?  thats not healtthy!!  

luvhugz08
by on Apr. 22, 2013 at 2:48 PM

good to have that out look 

mandaday
by Silver Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 2:49 PM
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Life is too short to spend miserable for the sake of an ideal. If my husband proves not to be the man he led me to believe he was when I married him, I'm gone. ( This was the case with my ex)
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Miss-B
by ‚ô•Divalicious‚ô• on Apr. 22, 2013 at 2:50 PM


Quoting xomrs.chase:

Hurting physically or cheating and its over. No ifs ands or buts.



Tracylynn100
by Silver Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 2:50 PM

If there are no deal breakers then you should be able to overlook physical violence too, doesn't that sound crazy, of course there are things that are not acceptable and shouldn't have to be forgiven because you took vows. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 22, 2013 at 2:50 PM
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I know what you're saying...Marriage is a joke to some people these days....and its very sad.

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