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Adoption and giving up parental rights....

Posted by on Apr. 22, 2013 at 6:13 PM
J3
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My friend has a son who is a little over a year.  The father wants nothing to do with his son and is paying child support but we don't know for how long.  Her ex husband and her are getting back together and he offered to adopt her son.  She wants to get married before he does that because she thinks she will have to give up her parental rights if he adopts her son before they are married.  This is totally wrong right?  She would not have to give up her rights the bio dad would have to give up his rights.  Right?

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LiesLiesLies
by Platinum Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 6:14 PM
Right.

However I doubt a judge will even look at them seriously at this point.
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hopeym23
by J3 on Apr. 22, 2013 at 6:16 PM

BUMP!

peanutsmommy1
by Ruby Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 6:18 PM
No judge would even consider an adoption before they are married
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hopeym23
by J3 on Apr. 22, 2013 at 6:18 PM

So they have to be married?  I know nothing about adoption.

Quoting peanutsmommy1:

No judge would even consider an adoption before they are married


balagan_imma
by Gold Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 6:19 PM

Why would she give up her rights? That makes no sense.

Baby's father would have to give up his rights in order for the husband to adopt. I don't know for sure, but I think they have to be married first.

rache71
by Bronze Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 6:19 PM
The Bio dad would have to term rights for a new dad to adopt the baby. If she term her rights the baby would go to Bio dad. But yes step parent adoption is usually easier then other forms. So being married to the potential adopter would help.
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peanutsmommy1
by Ruby Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 6:20 PM
Yea, they would have to be married before he could even file to adopt

And if dad is paying cs and is not a complete deadbeat, most likely it wouldnt be approved


Quoting hopeym23:

So they have to be married?  I know nothing about adoption.

Quoting peanutsmommy1:

No judge would even consider an adoption before they are married


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hopeym23
by J3 on Apr. 22, 2013 at 6:22 PM

He is the next thing to a complete deadbeat.  He wanted her to have an abortion and wants to tell his kid when he gets older that he never wanted him.  BUT he IS paying support.  He would probably give up his rights in a heartbeat so someone else could adopt him.

Quoting peanutsmommy1:

Yea, they would have to be married before he could even file to adopt

And if dad is paying cs and is not a complete deadbeat, most likely it wouldnt be approved


Quoting hopeym23:

So they have to be married?  I know nothing about adoption.

Quoting peanutsmommy1:

No judge would even consider an adoption before they are married



mommy6232011
by New Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 6:24 PM
She would have to be married to him for at least 6 months some states even a year. And the baby daddy would have to willingly sign over his right unless she can prove he's unfit. But she will not have to sign over her rights I have no clue where she got that from... But her she will have to be married for it to work..
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hopeym23
by J3 on Apr. 22, 2013 at 6:28 PM

I have no idea why she thinks she will have to give up her rights.

Quoting mommy6232011:

She would have to be married to him for at least 6 months some states even a year. And the baby daddy would have to willingly sign over his right unless she can prove he's unfit. But she will not have to sign over her rights I have no clue where she got that from... But her she will have to be married for it to work..


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