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adopting your teen's baby

Posted by on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:46 AM
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Question: Would you adopt your grandbaby

Options:

yes

only if that's what my dd wanted

no, not even if she asked

I would prefer a family member adopt the baby

other -ie I can't pick but want to vote.


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Another post about throwing a 13 year old a baby shower made me think about what would happen if your teen (any age) decided to give her baby (or his baby) up for adoption.

Would you want to adopt your grandchild or would you want to have the baby be adopted by strangers or another family member?

On one hand that's your grandchild. On the other hand, that doesn't really allow your teen to separate themselves from the child and could potentially make the baby confused or any number of other issues. I can imagine some girls would be doing some half assed parenting (ie: demanding to make decision but not taking responsibility for raising the baby.) 

I do know on guy who was adopted by his mom but she was away at University when she got pregnant and never lived with him. His grandparents are fully his mom and dad and his mom is more like his sister, although he knows who she is biologically to him. 

I realize many of us have perfect children and that this could never happen because their parenting is just so super amazing awesome but for those who have been through this or are capable of considering a hypothetical situation WWYD?

by on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:46 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:49 AM
I would if that was what my child wanted. If they wanted to choose a different family for adoption I would respect that also. When my sister got pregnant she considered adoption, and I remember my dad screaming that wasn't even an option unless he adopted the baby. My sister ended up getting a job, moving out with her BF, and keeping the baby. She was in her early 20s though not a teenager.
Benjamins-mama
by Platinum Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:49 AM
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if I had a daughter or even if the girl my son was with wanted that then yes I would.   I would never suggest the option though   it would have to be something they asked me to do

CatFishMom
by on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:50 AM
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I'd keep the child and if my kid didnt like it, tough luck. I would hope that I had raised my child well enough that if something like that happened, she (or he, because the answer is the same regardless) would have enough emotional maturity to understand that the baby is family and to be loved, regardless of whether they are going to be a parent or a sibling to said child.

starlight91
by on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:50 AM
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No she will take on the responsibility of the child she created.

KristenFowles
by Ruby Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:52 AM
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 If my daughter got pregnant, and chose adoption..

I may ask her if she'd allow her father and I to adopt the baby.. If this choice worked for her.. then absolutely. 

 

           


        

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:53 AM

Nope, she raises the baby on her own, or she doesnt have it at all. 

owl0210
by Emerald Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:55 AM
If I had a daughter there is no way in hell I would adopt her baby.
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Jessy613
by Diamond Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:55 AM


Quoting starlight91:

No she will take on the responsibility of the child she created.


bluebunbun
by Gold Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:56 AM

i might ask her but you cant demand it

AutymsMommy
by Platinum Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:56 AM

No. I would prefer she allow another, unrelated, family adopt the child.

I am a Home Schooling, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Stay at Home Mom. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities and nosy, involved parents. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it anywhere near my children. Now for the controversial stuff: we have traditional gender roles, we're Catholic, I'm Libertarian, he's Republican, we're both conservative, and we own guns (now there's no need to ask, lol).             Aimee














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