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What's up with all the neat freak, perfect moms?!

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Now don't get me wrong I have a decent house, but I'm not about to pretend it doesn't look like a tsunami hit it multiple times a day! If you walked in my house you would find some areas that aren't spotless, they may be a bit cluttered, some areas need dusting, I have dirty finger prints on several walls in my house and probably some marker, the dishes aren't always done, my son's room isn't always perfectly picked up with toys sorted, the laundry has a bad habit of needing to be done contantly so sometimes it sits in a basket for a couple days....

I have a lot of facebook friends that are stay at home moms too but their pictures always shows a perfect family with a perfectly decorated house with everything in it's place and they post about every fun, educational activity they do with their kids..... I don't know.... I'm a sahm mom with 2 boys (3 1/2 and 23 mo). My husband works about 75 hours a week so I don't have a lot of time to clean the house without also needing to watch the boys. I feel like I'm choosing to either be a maid or a mom. If I clean up every area to perfection all day I'll never be able to spend time with my boys.

Am I doing something wrong here? How is it that my houehold isn't like theirs no matter how hard I work? How in the world are they able to live like that? Do they just have tons of help? Do they have angel children who never scream, get dirty, do crazy thing, have hissy fits, and make messes? I plan activites to play with them and there are often times I can only get them to sit for 2 mins. I try and try but my kids still are just normal kids! I'm not gonna lie, it definitely makes me feel like I'm failing my family.

*****Just a quick edit, I'm not trying to diss on any mother for having a clean house lol. I think it's awesome if they can do that! I myself am pretty organized just because it helps my day go so much smoother and I do spend quite a lot of time everyday cleaning, it still just doesn't seem to be as perfect as many other mother's I've seen. I guess I was just expressing my frustration. Also I'm NOT trying to use my children as an excuse NOT to clean, I definitely clean plenty... that's just ridiculous LOL. 

******Another Edit - Thanks ladies for all the tips and encouragement... AND UNDERSTANDING LOL. Again, no disrespect to all the awesome moms out there who have a darn near perfect house:) 

by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:40 AM
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by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:45 AM

I like things to be in order. I've lived long enough having to be in unorganized,sloppy settings. I'm done with that.

by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:46 AM
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Maybe they just like to clean? What's up with all the mums who have dirty houses? I mean, it's a two way street really.
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by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:46 AM

My house is spotless, but I only clean while my son is sleeping. Sure it gets messy, but I always make sure to pick it up again before I go to bed so I can wake up to a clean house. If my son doesn't sleep all day, I wait for my husband to get home so I can do some cleaning then.

by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:47 AM
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a little clutter never hurt anyone.

and i am a firm believer that some people are just born more organized than others.
like, some people can draw, or sing or play an instrument. know what i mean?
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:49 AM
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For my family, it's called being a minimalist. We don't have a bunch of clutter and shit laying around the house, so it makes it easier to clean. My kids are also always expected to clean up after themselves and are taught how to keep a clean house and not be dirty pigs.

by Silver Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:50 AM
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While my house is nowhere near dirty, it's not spotless and probably won't ever be. I think life is too short to spend time cleaning all the time. My husband and I both work full time and I do not want to spend my free time cleaning. We clean on Sun mornings usually. That said, dishes get washed everyday, etc. I'm just not going to kill myself with exhaustion cleaning all the time.
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:50 AM
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I just do a little bit through out the day. Sometimes dishes and laundry get tossed to the bottom of the list. But I HAVE to vacuum multiple times a week, same with sweeping and dusting. Because I've got a 10 mo who's on the floor constantly, and my hubs has terrible allergies. My older son's room is always a wreck even though he puts all his toys away before bed. 

My house has hand prints all over, but the paint sucks so I just eave it rather than have giant bare spots.

But you know, really, as long as it's not a DISGUSTING mess(I'm talking some hoarder's shit here, lol), and your kids are happy and are having fun through out the day, I find letting some things slide makes me a much less stressed Momma.

by Gold Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:50 AM
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by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:52 AM
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Facebook is a joke. People always post the life that they want people to think they have.
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:52 AM

Same... I haven't cleaned yet this morning so if you were to walk in you'd knotice that my son has been playing with books, and that the breakfast dishes arn't washed and my husbands clothes are on the floor... But I will clean lol.... I need energy! They can't claim their house is always clean... unless they velcro their kids to their beds and their kids don't play or eat...

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