Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Mom Confessions Mom Confessions

What's up with all the neat freak, perfect moms?!

Posted by   + Show Post

Now don't get me wrong I have a decent house, but I'm not about to pretend it doesn't look like a tsunami hit it multiple times a day! If you walked in my house you would find some areas that aren't spotless, they may be a bit cluttered, some areas need dusting, I have dirty finger prints on several walls in my house and probably some marker, the dishes aren't always done, my son's room isn't always perfectly picked up with toys sorted, the laundry has a bad habit of needing to be done contantly so sometimes it sits in a basket for a couple days....

I have a lot of facebook friends that are stay at home moms too but their pictures always shows a perfect family with a perfectly decorated house with everything in it's place and they post about every fun, educational activity they do with their kids..... I don't know.... I'm a sahm mom with 2 boys (3 1/2 and 23 mo). My husband works about 75 hours a week so I don't have a lot of time to clean the house without also needing to watch the boys. I feel like I'm choosing to either be a maid or a mom. If I clean up every area to perfection all day I'll never be able to spend time with my boys.

Am I doing something wrong here? How is it that my houehold isn't like theirs no matter how hard I work? How in the world are they able to live like that? Do they just have tons of help? Do they have angel children who never scream, get dirty, do crazy thing, have hissy fits, and make messes? I plan activites to play with them and there are often times I can only get them to sit for 2 mins. I try and try but my kids still are just normal kids! I'm not gonna lie, it definitely makes me feel like I'm failing my family.

*****Just a quick edit, I'm not trying to diss on any mother for having a clean house lol. I think it's awesome if they can do that! I myself am pretty organized just because it helps my day go so much smoother and I do spend quite a lot of time everyday cleaning, it still just doesn't seem to be as perfect as many other mother's I've seen. I guess I was just expressing my frustration. Also I'm NOT trying to use my children as an excuse NOT to clean, I definitely clean plenty... that's just ridiculous LOL. 

******Another Edit - Thanks ladies for all the tips and encouragement... AND UNDERSTANDING LOL. Again, no disrespect to all the awesome moms out there who have a darn near perfect house:) 

by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:40 AM
Replies (31-40):
LizzieAnnesMom
by ☆Mrs.Winchester☆ on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:04 AM
Screw that, im with you. My house isnt filthy but its cluttered and messy. I cant do the washer and dryer because already my stomach wont let me reach down. And bending over like that kills my abdomen. But i do fold lol
Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:04 AM
1 mom liked this
I don't know. I'd rather spend time with my kids when they still want to spend time with me. My house work can always wait my kids won't want to hang out with mommy forever!
momoftwo0406
by Ruby Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:05 AM

I have never had a issue keeping my house clean even when my kids were small. If you keep up on it then it doesn't get bad. Keep toys to one area of the house. Have a set schedule for the kids and house work. Its not that hard if you have everyone on a daily schedule. Once your kids hit about 2 then they can help pick up the toys too. have them "help" clean even if its just giving them a broom to push around for a few min so you can get the dishes done. Clean during nap time or when you put them to bed. Clean the bathroom while the kids are in the tub.

I'm one of those crazy moms that have to have my house clean and clutter free at all times or I go nuts. I never found it hard to balance work, kids, school, and my home.

MrsDavidB25
by Stacey on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:05 AM
1 mom liked this

 Threre are A LOT of hours in the day. How can you (general) not have time to clean? If you get rid of the clutter and keep on top of the house through out the day there should be no reason for it to look like a tsunami hit it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:06 AM
Am I doing something wrong here? No you are not. Doing your best (or decent even) is good enough

How is it that my houehold isn't like theirs no matter how hard I work? Honestly some people are just super cleaners! It takes me about an hour to get my house from hoarder levels to you can lick the floors clean! My beat friend... It takes her about 10 hours to get her house picked up. It just does not come natural to her

How in the world are they able to live like that? Easily actually. i feel like im being suffocated and become very angry when my house isnt PERFECT

Do they just have tons of help? Nope. my husband doesnt even help

Do they have angel children who never scream, get dirty, do crazy thing, have hissy fits, and make messes? God no!!!! My children are monsters! I joke that my son excretes dirt! And my girls are always sticky and dragging dirt and mud and sand in no matter what I try. But just cleaning it up isn't really a chore for me.

Cleaning is fun for me. Because it does come so naturally. I am very "a place for everything, everything in its place" type person so creating that order In my home gives me joy! After I clean I walk through my house and just admire the order of it. And the smell of the cleaners and the shine of everything. Then my kids wreck this and I redo it eventually. I'm not always cleaning. I just have a really good system. And my idea if "clean" and "picked up" and "'messy" are very different than other people.
wkukid
by Beach Bum on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:07 AM

The only way my house stays clean is via cleaning lady.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:09 AM

Naw, their houses aren't perfect. They just steal those perfect pics off of real estate sites and claim that's their house.

MichelleSw
by CoolStory on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:10 AM

It's the same here as well, but I have slight OCD. So if things are out of place, it will CONSTANTLY be on my mind. I will even be in a bad mood. So I can to clean it. Then all is peaceful. 

mrsrodgers0703
by Ruby Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:12 AM
1 mom liked this
Well, I won't call cps for you princesses and puzzles of you don't call for my blankets and Tonka trucks..


Quoting ColtsFan1912:

& right now. . .*gasp* there are toys on my living room floor. My daughter has her princesses out all over. . . & my son is doing a puzzle at the kitchen table. . .which still has some Monster Trucks on it from breakfast (my daughter likes to feed her trucks for some reason lol)


momtolittleg
by Platinum Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:12 AM
I'm not a SAHM (well, I am right now because I'm off work) and my house rarely looks picture perfect. Today, I could take a pic of my shower stall and it would be perfect. So would the guest bedroom. But everywhere else? HA! I am not trying to impress anyone. We rarely have company so who cares!?
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

close Join now to connect to
other members!
Connect with Facebook or Sign Up Using Email

Already Joined? LOG IN