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What's up with all the neat freak, perfect moms?!

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Now don't get me wrong I have a decent house, but I'm not about to pretend it doesn't look like a tsunami hit it multiple times a day! If you walked in my house you would find some areas that aren't spotless, they may be a bit cluttered, some areas need dusting, I have dirty finger prints on several walls in my house and probably some marker, the dishes aren't always done, my son's room isn't always perfectly picked up with toys sorted, the laundry has a bad habit of needing to be done contantly so sometimes it sits in a basket for a couple days....

I have a lot of facebook friends that are stay at home moms too but their pictures always shows a perfect family with a perfectly decorated house with everything in it's place and they post about every fun, educational activity they do with their kids..... I don't know.... I'm a sahm mom with 2 boys (3 1/2 and 23 mo). My husband works about 75 hours a week so I don't have a lot of time to clean the house without also needing to watch the boys. I feel like I'm choosing to either be a maid or a mom. If I clean up every area to perfection all day I'll never be able to spend time with my boys.

Am I doing something wrong here? How is it that my houehold isn't like theirs no matter how hard I work? How in the world are they able to live like that? Do they just have tons of help? Do they have angel children who never scream, get dirty, do crazy thing, have hissy fits, and make messes? I plan activites to play with them and there are often times I can only get them to sit for 2 mins. I try and try but my kids still are just normal kids! I'm not gonna lie, it definitely makes me feel like I'm failing my family.

*****Just a quick edit, I'm not trying to diss on any mother for having a clean house lol. I think it's awesome if they can do that! I myself am pretty organized just because it helps my day go so much smoother and I do spend quite a lot of time everyday cleaning, it still just doesn't seem to be as perfect as many other mother's I've seen. I guess I was just expressing my frustration. Also I'm NOT trying to use my children as an excuse NOT to clean, I definitely clean plenty... that's just ridiculous LOL. 

******Another Edit - Thanks ladies for all the tips and encouragement... AND UNDERSTANDING LOL. Again, no disrespect to all the awesome moms out there who have a darn near perfect house:) 

by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:40 AM
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by Gold Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:12 AM
I clean the house once a week, do upkeep cleaning every day, and do one deep clean project a week. I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and don't find this difficult at all. Clean up messes as they are made instead of waiting until there are several. I don't think it has anything to do with being perfect or a super mom, I think it is time management.
by Gold Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:12 AM

Quoting Anonymous:

One quote I've heard and really like (probably not exact but close): Don't compare your behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel. I do fun educational activities with my kid too, but honestly they don't take up a lot of time. I could spend all day cleaning with the kid in front of the TV, 10 minutes taking Mom of the Year pictures of my kid doing something awesome, and everyone would think everything is perfect. Not saying that's necessarily what they do - just that you don't know what's really going on in their house. 

by Gold Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:13 AM
Oh and my kids are holy terrors. Lol.
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:13 AM

most are full of shit

by Ruby Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:14 AM

Quoting Anonymous:

I don't know. I'd rather spend time with my kids when they still want to spend time with me. My house work can always wait my kids won't want to hang out with mommy forever!

by Anonymous 11 on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:14 AM

What's with all the moms who use their kids as an excuse not to clean?

by Emerald Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:15 AM
I clean when my son goes to bed (besides just generally picking things up as we go). So, there are times during the day when my living room looks like a tornado hit it. I do try to pick up every night before I go to bed though.
by Gold Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:16 AM
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 A cluttered home is a sign of a cluttered mind. A clean home is a sign of a wasted life.  Walk the middle road...

by Krissy on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:18 AM
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by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 10:18 AM
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i have great time managment skills. and my kids entertain themselves without trashing the house

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