See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
He's a liberal Muslim
Very Americanized, so to speak
He married me when my son was 4 so took my son as his own, but my sons dad has him 3 days a week so it's not like a 24/7 thing.
He takes my son to Mosque every week for a few hours and we practice Ramadan as a family and other "holidays"
My sons dad is a Christian, again very liberal one
I am buddhist
We, DH and I are planning to go visit his home at some point so that will be interesting, most likely when my son is a bit older and his Farsi is better we will all go together.
We speak Arabic around the home, which freaks my family out lol but I need to learn so I don't care
btw...I am mixed, My dad is Black and French and my mom is German
My mom had the biggest issue with this. Because I dated a muslim before and she started crying so with him I didn't tell her anything about his religious background I just said he was from the middle east and she'll like him. And she did, when I told her about him being from Afghanistan she was shocked but she already liked him so she couldn't be all pissy about it.
I will note, with his family it was harder. There are certain things expected of me that I refuse to do. FOr instance, I will not convert, I will practice with him when its needed, like Ramadan or wearing a Hijab to mosque, but I will not convert. But inreturn I spent so much time with him mom and sister learning everything I could, from cooking, to traditions, to everything.
He also wants me to convert, but so far I have been a good wife to a Muslim husband so he understands.
ALSO lol I make more money than him, he doesn't like it, but I think after a certain amount of money it shouldn't matter. My cash is limitless, I can choose to work a few months and get paid what most people make in a year, or I can work year round and make what people take 3-4 years to make, its just part of my job, but he doesn't like it. Feels like he is failing as a provider. That is a BIG thing because most of his female family members don't even work and arent expected to.
Ask anything, maybe you have a similar struggle?