Do I have a right to be F---ing furious?? *A bit long*
SO and I have been talking about children and if we would have one together, even though we both have children from previous relationships (1 is mine and 3 are his). He asked to adopt mine and I said no for my own reasons, that I do not want to discuss. He starts on this whole tirade about how he will not be a father figure to mine, and blah blah blah, my child would never call him daddy, blah blah blah. So I ask him the following question:
Me: Will you treat my child differently than a child we had together?
His response: IDK. Your immediate denial to me adopting her is making me think about it.
Me:I will NOT have a child with a guy who would treat my child any differently than his own just because I won't let him adopt my child. I also need to think about if I could even be with a man who cannot accept my child as his own without adopting my child. Fully 100% acceptance of my child will make or break a relationship.
him: I accept your child absolutely.
me: no you don't. If you could even think of treating my child any differently because you are not adopting my child, you do not. I will NOT have my child feel like they are an outsider or even slightly unwanted into any family I do or do not create.
him: that isn't what I meant. I meant your child calling me by my name and our child calling me daddy. Unless our child has to call me by my name also. I misinterpreted your question.
Needless to say I'm not buying the whole misinterpreting my question thing, but this really pisses me off.
Ladies, you tell me, did I misinterpret, or misunderstand something or did he say he would treat my child differently than our child?